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dayiscoming2006 
After having an early miscarriage, I'm more open to using the doppler. I may want to switch to fetoscope once I'm far enough along for that to be effective. But, it calms my nerves to hear the heartbeat. I may also not worry about it so much once I can really feel baby moving. I think you should definitely speak up if you want more information or want to make informed consent. I know I had a similar feeling about my midwife using a doppler during my last pregnancy. I was at an appointment and she yanked it out and used it without even seeing if I was OK with it. That really bothered me. She did other things later that made me decide to drop her.
I feel the same way. We borrowed a doppler from a friend because I was having BAD anxiety over losing this baby too. I use it once a week for a few minutes, just to calm my nerves. I'll stop once I regularly feel movement! :)
As for pelvic exams, I've never had one in early pregnancy. I decline cervical checks in later pregnancy as well...I personally don't feel that they're necessary!
I wouldn't worry about being a "difficult" patient. They understand that this is all new to you and that you want the best for your baby! Just voice your concerns!
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