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post #81 of 99

I never had a problem nursing in public, but a lot of people have been supportive. The very first time I nursed in public, I was out at a restaurant with my parents and newborn. My mom urged me to nurse my son in the booth and said no one would even notice or be able to see anything. I've had a lot of strangers be sweet to me. One time, flying home to see my family with my 12 month old, we had a hellishly delayed flight layover. I was sitting in the terminal nursing my son, and a middle aged lady walked up to me, smiled, and handed me a bottle of water (since nursing makes you thirsty). I've always thought that was just the sweetest way to quietly support a nursing mom.

Oh, also, I took my baby to work with me for six months. It was a small, tight-knit office. One time, one of my coworkers said, "Hey, that baby's head is blocking my view." (In retrospect, I know that sounds inappropriate, but we were good friends and it was hilarious at the time.)

post #82 of 99
I've been nursing now for 20 months, whenever or wherever and I've never gotten a negative response. I usually wear a nursing tank top under a lightweight shirt, and no cover. I've been in situations where I know people are uncomfortable (like my in laws) but I just do my thing and don't react. I feel like its my job to feed/comfort my kid and normalize nursing, not be apologetic or overly explanatory. I think I give off a "don't screw with me" vibe anyway, so that probably helps too smile.gif
post #83 of 99

nope, none.  But my in-laws have been sitting next to me and not even known we brought the baby.

 

Being modest about it works wonders.  And for the family members that I know its going to tick off, I leave the area ad find a less controversial corner to snuggle my bub.  Maybe one day it can't be helped, but so far that's not today. :)

post #84 of 99

just to comment about the comments a man can make: '' I wish I could switch places with the baby''....I don't find it a negative comment.

to me, it doesn,t imply that breastfeeding is sexual. I can understand that it can be inappropriate for a stranger to declare that he wants to suck on my breast....but to me, it doesn't sound that way. I would interpret this comment like: ''your baby looks so well snuggled against your breasts, I wish I could experience the same feeling''....and who could blame them!

post #85 of 99
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Originally Posted by lilitchka View Post

just to comment about the comments a man can make: '' I wish I could switch places with the baby''....I don't find it a negative comment.

to me, it doesn,t imply that breastfeeding is sexual. I can understand that it can be inappropriate for a stranger to declare that he wants to suck on my breast....but to me, it doesn't sound that way. I would interpret this comment like: ''your baby looks so well snuggled against your breasts, I wish I could experience the same feeling''....and who could blame them!


Yes!  And I also think some guys who have said similar things to me were mostly just in awe of what my body can do, and were trying to compliment me in their own awkward, foot-in-mouth way.  Even when the words coming out of their mouths were easily interpreted as inappropriate, the body language was generally positive and complimentary.

post #86 of 99

My dd is 2 and I don't think I've ever had anyone be even the least bit negative. I have been surprised many times by strangers going out of their way to say super supportive things about extended breastfeeding!
 

post #87 of 99

I do it on the subway.  Folks are squished up against me but I do it anyway.  The carrier largely covers what's left to be seen, so they only catch glimpses of the good stuff when my 11.5 month old pops off to babble something loudly...which these days he does often.  Folks are fine about it; on the very rare occasion someone harrumphs and turns away pointedly (always a middle-aged woman, btw), but it's all good.  I've had an elderly man tell me what I was doing was beautiful, and I've had other women smile at me with a look in their eyes that tells me they miss the days of BFing...it's sweet.

 

Be well.

post #88 of 99
I've been nursing for almost 5 months, and never had a problem... I've nursed in restaurants, grocery stores, shopping malls - usually with a cover. The few interactions have been encouraging (e.g. strangers making eye contact and smiling). However, I have given my baby expressed breastmilk in a bottle in public and have received a couple of comments that were critical about formula feeding! So maybe it depends on the location - I live in Portland, Oregon.
post #89 of 99

Never.  Not a single time.  But, I did have LOTS of positive comments, even when bf toddlers in public.  :-)

post #90 of 99

I never had any real problems nursing in public either, with 4 years of nursing so far. I don't cover, I just use tanks so no one sees anything anyway.  There was one time I was visiting a new church, and the nursery paged me.  I nursed my baby in the empty hallway, and during that time I had two people stop and tell me where the nursing room was.  I just smiled and thanked them, and stayed where I was sitting.  Then there was this one old guy that glared at me with a giant scowl while I was walking while nursing my toddler at the mall.  That's pretty much it.  I had more positive comments than anything else.  I even had a lady who worked the WIC office come up and thank me for nursing in public while I was at the mall.

post #91 of 99

I have never had a negative encounter in public.  I nursed my first for 18 months, my second for over 3 years and my third is currently almost 2.  I have nursed everywhere from a mall, restaurants, at my older kids sports lessons, etc.  I never use a cover, but do try to wear clothing to minimize full breast exposure.

post #92 of 99
I've nursed in fancy restaurants, public parks, shopping malls, on the beach, on a bus....pretty much anywhere my son desires, and I've never had a problem! Recently, in an airport, and an older lady sat down beside me. She scolded me for the fact that my 2 year old was still in diapers, but when he asked to nurse, she smiled and said I was doing it "old-fashioned". She definitely approved of that!
post #93 of 99

I have an 8 month old and nurse whenever & wherever and no problems :) 

post #94 of 99
I've been nursing for almost 4 years now. In public, being discreet most of the time. But when I had no other choice, if I chose the wrong top or forgot my scarf.. baby's gotta eat, and I never had a problem.

I must confess I started to cut public sessions when my DS1 was about a year and a half. But that was only because by then, we had a pretty set routine and because DS1 was totally fine with that, if he wasn't, I would continue. But even after that, when I had to nurse him out , I did, like last week when I nursed my 3.5 son sitting under a far away tree in a public park because the baby was away with grandma and I was getting engorged.

It is so necessary to speak about our positive experiences in nursing in public. I have never had any looks or confrontation but I always felt it was hard to brush off that self conscious feeling and I think this is because I have read, in forums, so much fuss about how problematic it is to nurse in public. Yes, this notion is pretty much blown by ourselves, I believe.

I visited my country when DS1 was almost two. We were out everyday, all day and feeding him was not easy, so I nursed him away during the trip to maintain a happy LO. I did it always in public, and it felt so good. If anyone there gets shocked, I'm not sure, i believe the breastfeeding culture is a lil stronger there. But I breastfed a toddler in public without restraints or embarrassment because it was my land, my rules. I am starting to feel this way in the US.

Today, with DS2, (7mo now) I decided to not even bother an inch. It's a natural thing. If anyone out there, has a problem with it, it's clearly their problem because we all know it is not a problem at all.

I hope I don't have to nurse my toddler in any busy public environment but the day my child needs it ... Baby's gotta eat.
post #95 of 99

I've only been breastfeeding for three months, but I've never had a problem and I've breastfed in public lots and lots of times. Of course, I live in Eugene, OR, the friendliest most accepting town ever. I even have women who I don't know walk up and talk to my baby while she's nursing, like it's the most comfortable thing in the world. ("Oh are you getting a little snacky snack to hold you over?" she smiles and coos, then continues nursing.) At first I tried to use a light blanket to cover while nursing, but after a couple weeks, I decided that was silly and unnecessary and only made it harder. I now just wear loose shirts and pull up or down depending on the shirt, and it is easy as pie. No awkwardness. If it makes anyone else uncomfortable, I haven't noticed...maybe a few men who purposely avoid looking, but that's okay. One friend who blushed a little the first time I whipped out the boob by them, but got over it quickly. lol.

post #96 of 99
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I am going in 4 months of no problems nursing in public! At least not from other people. I have blushed once or twice at a nip slip that's happened because my daughter pulled away quickly before I could slide my shirt down.
post #97 of 99
I've never had a problem with anyone saying anything to me!
post #98 of 99

and i have never had a problem bf in public myself too

post #99 of 99

My baby is only four months and I love breastfeeding. :) It's so easy. I feel more awkward nursing in front of friends and relatives than I do in front of strangers. I don't care at all what strangers think of me, and no one has ever said anything. But if relatives feel weird about it they are more likely to let you know, even if they are trying to be sensitive. The first time I nursed in public was in a restaurant. We were with a cousin and his wife, the cousin being raised in a non-breastfeeding home, but his wife very open to it. Everyone seemed to think I was headed to the bathroom and my husband picked up the diaper bag and pointed the restroom out to me. I said "I am NOT feeding my baby in the bathroom", and sat down on the edge of the booth so I would have more elbow room. My husband helped hold the blanket while I got the baby latched on. He doesn't usually do that, but it was a tight space, and the baby was extra mad. If I can help it I would rather not flash my boob to the entire room. His cousin made a comment after a while about how he hadn't realized how long it takes. Glad I could be a good example for him and help his wife out.

 

There was another time I was at the mall with my MIL. When the baby was ready to eat she suggested I go in the dressing room in a store. But I let her know I was fine just sitting on the bench where we were. She was fine with that, but it's strange that people assume you want to hide. Whenever I have gone and "hid" somewhere to feed my baby it has made me feel ashamed. I don't like to feel that way! I know there is nothing to be ashamed of and I now enjoy feeding my baby wherever I happen to be when he is hungry. It makes life easier and happier. 

 

I don't use nursing covers either. They are like a sign that says "my boob is out under here!". I am discreet though. Most of the time people just think I am snuggling my sleeping baby, and I have had to warn a few people that he is eating when they come up to take a peek at him. :) It's funny to see them blush and divert their eyes,

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