I'm here, but I should be sleeping...
Sorry I'm not up on all the happenings but congrats to those who have gotten stuff done, and to Quinalla on boy/girl!
FarmerMomma I'm sorry to hear about that conversation but at least you know exactly where you stand in this. I hope you can think long and hard about how to make this a good situation for you and your family.
We are moving in 12 days back to Boston. We have been sorting/packing/selling/giving away tons of stuff. I just want it all done. I am so ready for this torture to be over. I have so much going on, I don't always remember what it is I am supposed to be doing. Between finishing grad school applications (4 schools), the move, finding a new place to live, buying a car in MA, finding a doula, handling the paperwork in Japan that we have to finish before we leave, trying to visit our friends before we leave...I am ready to collapse. And I know that's not all I am doing, there's more but I can't remember it right now!
DH has a severe case od tendonitus (tennis elbow) in his left (dominent) elbow. He can't do as much to help out which is really not helping things. He is taking care of all the box packing which is huge. But I have to lift everything, even the 50 lb boxes for weighing. He started seeing my acupuncturist this week for the pain and was highly doubtful about the effectiveness, but is now a believer. His arm is getting better, I just hope it gets better faster!
Had to hash out the mother (my mother/his mother) visitation schedule today. It wasn't pretty since we are both tired but could have been a LOT worse. The issue was that DD has to visit her father in March and I wasn't too keen on the idea of DD flying non-stop by herself (7 year old w/ ADD/ADHD - makes me a little nervous). But this is the solution that we have come up with to prevent my mother being with us for longer then 6 weeks, which is already a long time. My mother was going to escort DD back to Boston and stay longer. DH said, basically, no way (she does drive me insane, but recently has made an effort not to be so infuriating). Then he said it would be OK for his mom to stay for 3 weeks, but my mom only 2-3 days?? I was taking a lot of deep breathes at that point. I have never meant my MIL in person (she lives in New Zealand) but why would he think that his mother would drive me less crazy then my mother? We had to desist and try again a little later so we didn't overreact.
He's still not getting how much life is going to change come May...I fear that come April I won't be doing much at all, and he will drive us all crazy because he won't feel he is getting enough work done since he will have to feed us and clean up/wash dishes & clothes. And he still has this idea that the baby is coming on a specific day so we can just plan everything out for that date. He just doesn't get it, despite how many times I've told him!