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[rocknmama]

I just joined up today! Ya to last minute joining. :) I'm 35 weeks, and have a 3 1/2 year old son. He seems really into the whole babe thing, and we talk about it quite a bit on his own prompting. But I got an email from a friend who just had her 2nd giving me all of this advice that felt super weird. I'm a really laid back parent, way more than most of my mama friends where I live.... but anyways. What have you done to help your oldest? books? conversations? taking them to appointments?

[Chloe'sMama]

When pregnant with DD2, I included my DD1 (turned 2 just before birth) in everything.  She went to every midwife appt. with me and we watched birth videos (I had a homebirth and knew I wanted her there).  I also made a HUGE deal about her being a big sister and how important her job is.  When DD2 was born, I tried to include her at diaper changing time, reading books to her when I was nursing, etc.  My mom was taking care of DD1 for the first month after DD2 was born (at my house with all of us there), so she had lots of special time and I made sure to make special time for her too.

It is a transition for all children, even if they are super excited.  No need to be stressed or anxious, just know that your DS will need your snuggles too.  I think it will come naturally for you and your family!  Congrats and welcome.

[typebug]

I actually remember my mother explaining everything to me, watching birth videos and being totally amazed. I was 2 1/2!