Dd is in 9th grade,her first year of high school.Last year she made high honors,but the standards at her new school are a lot higher,so I can understand if she's having a hard time.She failed because she handed a lot of important assignments in late,never handed some in,and she never did the summer reading assignment,which counted towards this quarter's grade.Over the summer I bought her the book,made sure she had the papers she needed,and reminded her every day.She just didn't want to do it.The assignments she does do and hand in on time,she gets very good grades.
I'm afraid she could lose her spot at the school.It's a small charter school with an excellent reputation,serves the entire state,and it focuses on the arts.She's taking visual arts,she is very talented at drawing and wants to become an animator one day.She was very lucky to get in,admissions are done by lottery and they only had 40 spots,with over 200 applications.The great thing is it's in our city,and close to our house.She loves going to school,gets right out of bed and gets ready every morning.The last 3 years were a struggle,she hated the middle school(her brother started there this year,and he doesn't like it either).Her grades were excellent,but she said it was very boring,so I thought she would like the challenge at this school.
She is doing very well in all her other subjects,she's having a little trouble in math,but she's getting it.I want to help her,but I never even finished 9th grade.I have a GED,but that's it.I'm very willing to learn along with her if that's what it takes.I just don't want her to end up like me.I excelled with the school work,but had a very hard time with the social parts and changing classes in junior high,no one helped me,I was in truancy court all the time,all I got was yelled at and hit by my mom,no one even tried to understand.Thankfully things have changed a lot,my ds has a lot of accommodations,classes are closer together and they don't change 7 times a day,it's 4 now,and bullying isn't tolerated like it was back then.If I had help,I probably would've stayed in school and maybe done something with my life,but instead I still struggle with mental health issues,I'm on disability and I don't work.I've tried to explain this to dd, how I want better for her and ds,and that I will help them in anyway I can,they can always come to me and together we will figure it out,I won't get angry like my mom did.
I just want her to understand that it's important to try hard,especially if she wants to be an animator and possibly go to RI School of Design like some of her favorite artists.She's an amazing kid,smart,great sense of humor,caring,she's just wonderful.We are very close,I try to spend lots of time with her,it's hard sometimes with her brother"s special needs,but I always make sure she knows I'm here for her no matter what.I don't want to see her fail when I know she can do it.
Thanks for reading and for any advice! :)