Hello, My husband and I are both from New York.However we fled in the mid 90s for Portland, Or and now we have a wonderful almost 2 year old daughter.
Here in Portland we co-sleep, breastfeed, don't vax (so far), wear thrift store clothes, and we belong to a fantastic "swap shop" co-op where we can exchange useful goods, as well as hang out and socialize, for $30 a month. I've gradually made AP minded friends who are interested in homeschooling. Our income is low but we own our house (thanks to my husband inheriting the money to buy it). So, we live pretty simply yet don't feel poor at all.
HOWEVER! Since having our baby, we have felt lonely for family. True, our families are totally non AP oriented. My husband's family is competitive and materialistic. My family is not rich at all, but strives to live as if they are - working all the time, stressed, smoking, drinking. But despite these major differences in lifestyle, and values, they love us, and are really excited about getting to be around our daughter. During our last trip to NY, I felt more at ease around my husband's family and more accepting of mine. We are thinking of moving back. We would probably live in Queens.
Questions for Queens people: Do you feel like there are others like you nearby? Are any of you sahms? What is your social life like? Are there holistic doctors who are open to selective/delayed/non vaxing? How do you feel in general about living in NYC and practicing Attachment Parenting?
If you are not actually in Queens but are in the NYC/Long Island area, please feel free to answer.