Ok - so DS was recently tested and found to be gifted even though i've suspected it for years. We alsway considered him emotionally immature because of his overly emotional reactions to everything. As i've been reading up on it i now know he clearly is emotionally overexcitable. Here is our problem. I sat down with him last night to do a very simple homework assignment that consisted of 4 questions. OF course he went ballistic at the mention of homework but i convinced him he just had to do it then he could get back to having fun.
DS is 6 and in grade 1 - the homework assignment had a green rectangle and a green square with 2 questions - how are these shapes the same? How are these shapes different? It then had a purple hexagon and a purple pentagon with the same questions as above.
So i convinced DS to start by telling him we'd time it to see how long each question took. So first question about the square/recatngle he jumps right on it and writes "they have the same number of sides" - takes 40 seconds total. We move on to the how are they different part - and he writes "they are not the same" - so i tell him that they know they are not the same, what about them makes them not the same. He freaks out - starts screaming that i dont understand - he is right they are not the same and storms off. I convince him to come back and sit down (i threaten to ban video game priveleges) - he carries on for several minutes that i'm wrong he's right. they are not the same, one is a square and one is a rectangle - i try to ask him how does he know that to explain why they are different he freaks out and storms off again.
Another threat of the video game priveleges and he comes back i tell him lets skip this an go to the next one for now - after a few minutes he agrees - so he immediately writes that the next 2 shapes (pentagon and hexagon) are different because they have a different number of sides. I tell him great - now how are they the same - well of course he freaks out again and say - they arent - there is nothing the same about them. I try to point out the color is the same and he starts screaming that i know nothing - pentagons and hexagons dont have to be purple so that does not make them the same. I tell him i understand but that these 2 particular ones happen to both be purple so arent these 2 the same. he storms off a couple more times eventually agrees to write they are the same color.
Anyways - long and short he keeps fliying off the handle - eventually after about 40 mins he does complete the sheet and after doing a 3d drawing making and a rectangulare 3d shape he concedes the rectangle is longer. Meanwhile - we had a ton of freak outs and screaming, DH is mad at me for letting him carry on like that and tells me i'm babying him. Not sure what the right way to deal with this is. Am i being to lenient on him - i was just trying to get him to calm down, DH wanted me to send him to his room.
Any recommended texts i could read or send to my husband to read to try and understand.
Sorry about the novel!
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