How do you acknowledge the statement, but not indulge the attention-seeking?
DS, 3+ has an articulation disorder so he's behind in speaking. He doesn't Babble away about his day. He'll answer questions, but they're not exactly true... Did you play with trains today? Yes. Did you ride an elephant? Yes.
He doesn't detail his emotions or tell you what's going on in his day to day because he doesn't have that many words.
BUT in speech class and at home, we've been working with a lot of emotions.
Tonight going down, I told him "I'm so proud of you. You make mommy happy"...kisses kisses.
And he made a grumpy face...
You're mad? "I no like daddy".
Why are are you mad at daddy? "put me in time-out"
This went on and on. He doesn't like grandpa. Grandpa hit him. Where? At grandpa's house. When? In Time-out.
It's the first time we've ever had ANY conversation like this, so while others dealing with an almost 3.5yr old.... um, this is completely new for me.
#1 - he doesn't live with his father, and it's been 4days since he was at his house. Maybe his Dad did put him in time-out FOUR days ago, but he's not mad about that today. He's doing something with emotions and testing me.
#2 - Grandpa did not hit him. His grandpa is the coolest man ever, WAY cooler than his father. Truthfully. And again, hasn't seen Grandpa in four days.
BUT my question is... what do you do when this is said outloud?
I Want him to tell me if someone hits him! Of course!
Last thing I want to do is shrug off.... "Oh, Grandpa didn't hit you..."
And I didn't say that. I didn't ignore it... I didn't know what to do, so I asked 10 questions and about #7 he got bored and stopped answering.
I get that kids lie and are testing boundaries. "he hit me"... let's see how mom reacts.
And that we're just exploring emotions and facial reactions.... and personally, I've been hurt recently because I dislocated my shoulder, so he's heard/seen me wince in pain and subsequently ask for help (and receive it).... there's a lot going on here.
So again, how do you acknowledge that he's speaking and telling you something.... yet, discourage the attention-seeking part of it?