Originally Posted by Baby_Cakes
I've got this one mama on my DDC group freaking out all the mamas b/c most of our babies only have a handful of words. She's already got her 18 mo old in EI b/c of all the free services, and she's "not taking any chances" etc etc. Omg. I just keep reassuring all the first time (and second time and 3rd time) moms that a handful of words is well within normal and EI isn't NECESSARY. It's just so redic. She's saying normal for right now is 50-100 words! WTH? No, no no. No it isn't. I'm sorry, but no. Stop worrying your friends. B/c in our DDC at this point we all know each other well, and we know her older children have some special needs, but why does she need to pidgeon hole the youngest now just b/c of the others??
Ugh. Yeah, that's not the good kind of EI. That's just flipping out over nothing. I think EI should be more for kids who genuinely do have deficits- ie I babysat a little boy who at 4, still didn't use any consonents at the beginning of words. for instance "I want to go to the park", came out "i an o eh ou a arrrrkkkk" His mother ignored it. At 9, he still is barely intelligible. Or, also babysat for a little girl who was a preemie, and at 18 months was stil obviously showing that she could not/would not weight bear on her legs. Not just wouldn't walk, but if you tried to stand her up on your lap even, she acted like a 2 month old. She saw a therapist to help her out. These cases, I think warrant it. But not having a dozen words by 18 months? Blah. Just give them time. Like MW said, as long as there's progression, and -some- new skills being mixed in, it's all variations of normal.
Originally Posted by akind1
Meh - when I was Gabe's age I just shut down or screamed. I wouldn't apologize for anything. LOL. And sitting with daddy isn't really meant to be a punishment - I don't consider it such. A consequence, but not a punishment - he'd probably just end up playing with DH's cell phone. He tells DH and I sorry all the time for stuff (that doesn't require apology - no harm done. He sees us trip and says "sorry mommy" even though he didn't cause it) right now, what I'm trying to get across is when it's appropriate and expected to apologize. We rarely have issues like this - where he's causing another kid hurt (other than Norah) - so it's a learning/teaching opportunity.
Now, when our friends (whose kid was hurt) was told to stand still, arms by sides and tell each us "good night MISTER or MISS so-and-so" or he'd be spanked - that's forced. and just wrong.
:( That does suck. I'm on the fence with the apology thing. We've started making 'please' a priority with Tenley, mostly because she doesn't have the other words, but does know please, so otherwise she just grunts and squeals, which drives us nuts. So we're trying to encourage her to say Please and point to the thing instead. And we model thank you, and sorry, but I don't expect those to come for a while. But I mean Gabe isn't 18 months anymore, so I can get why there's a desire for him to learn appropriate situations when I'm sorry would be warranted. I think given that it was a physical violence issue, I don't think it's totally out there to request that he say sorry (acknowledge that what he did was wrong), or take some time to sit and cool down for a while with daddy. You're giving him the opportunity, and you could look at it like this-- if he doesn't want to say sorry, that's similar to saying that he doesn't think there's anything wrong with what he did- the hitting. So as a parent in a public setting, I think it's reasonable then to expect a natural consquence of that situation is for him to be removed. If he doesn't think the hitting is wrong, then there's a chance he's going to do it again. So you remove him from the setting (going to sit with daddy), so he isn't tempted to hit again.
Maybe I'm talking myself in circles. We didn't sleep well last night either. lol.
Tenley's playing with her Little People house right now. I <3 when she does this. But she won't let me play with her. As soon as I go over, she looks at me funny and finds something else to do. So I just sit here and secretly watch her. lol. She's ringing the doorbell, and putting them in the bath and on the potty. She's also brought the goat home with them. lol.
Soooo... trying to convince DH to do a beach vacation this winter/spring. Probably March or April. Our passports both expire in September, AND Tenley is free under two, so until Nov. So it makes sense to go this year, when we can travel free with her (and not have to renew our passports right away, which will be about $150 extra I think. We could really use a vacation. Really. Also, I just got my vacation paid out from qork, and it's about $1000. Plus we've got $900 in RBC points to use. Seat Sale AIs should run us about $800-900 a person, so the points already pay for one person. I'd have to work an extra 8-9 shifts at work, and then that would pay for the vacation totally. That's not that bad. This week alone, they've wanted me to work two other shifts I've turned down. Anyways... the catch, is I said we can't go until I get back in shape. I want to strut my stuff on the beach, and then the vacation will be my reward. I can totally do it, if I put in the effort. It's freezing out here, but I can do some videos at home, and I think I'm going to start taking Tenley to the pool more often- it's only $6 I think to get in, and there's a track I can use with the stroller too, so we can either swim then run or run then swim. On a track like that, I could probably alternate walking and jogging for an hour. That's a lot of calories burned, especially adding swimming into it.