Carrie ~ tell me the others and i'll tell you if i recognize them. DONA is the only one i know i've heard.
It's good that Nora had fun once she was out with Chris, but what was the reason for making her go in the first place? I guess I'm just not getting why she needed to go on those kinds of errands. If I were going on errands like that, I'd much rather go by myself then have to drag a kid along.
I think Dylan is sick again. He threw up all over me last night right after we went to bed. He hasn't thrown up today but he feels a little warm and is more fussy and clingy than usual.
I was thinking of going thru CBI (Childbirth International). There's a bunch of different places/groups that certify that all bascially require similar things. It seems DONA is more hospital friendly (as most nurses will cert thru DONA) and each birth you attend for obtaining your cert needs to be approved/signed off by the OB or MW. CBI also doesn't require you to take any workshops out of town. I'm nervous to leave for a weekend for a workshop while I still have a nursling.
Ok - bear with me. It may seem silly or unnecessary but with her not accepting Chris at all it's exhausting. He always invites her to go, she throws a fit and yells mean things (I HATE Daddy! I don't LIKE him! I only love Mommy!) It's part of our plan to get her to stop rejecting him completely. as it is she refuses to let him help her with anything (meals, clothes, potty, bath, getting food/drink, bedtime, etc). We've mostly just let her have her say. As soon as she got upset, I would back down, say it isn't worth it, and he would go off again (on an errand and not taking a kid with...)
But...I don't feel good about it. I feel like she is so clingy to me and needy. And her rudeness toward DH is just...it needs to stop. I suppose she's entitled to her feelings and I don't want to disregard them. But I also feel like there needs to be some balance.
That and he really needs to spend more time with her. They barely have any time together, and I think that's a huge part of her disapproval of him. B/w his travel and all, she sometimes forgets if he's home or not, and I don't like that. I want them to have a good relationship, and I think encouraging time together is one step toward that.
Oh no about Dylan. Feel better little man!!
I try really hard not to yell. It's tough though because with 7 people in a small house, things get loud quick and sometimes I have to raise my voice just to be heard over the din. But it's always a work in progress.
Baby_Cakes, the thing that is most confusing to me about your DH's "ultimatums" to your DD is that they don't make sense. Like how does roughhousing have anything to do with bedtime? I can only imagine how confusing that must be to Nora. Is he receptive to talking through it when not in the heat of the moment? Does he acknowledge that he does it and it's a problem? That's the first step IMO.
Camp/school stuff: So I'm typically not a big fan of summer camp stuff that lasts all summer. When we've had the cash, I usually let the kids pick out one summer activity and around here, they last for a week. So DSS 12 did lacrosse camp one summer. It was mornings only and lasted for a week. We have so many awesome, free, fun activities for the kids to do at the library plus other places around town that I hate to schedule them for a camp that lasts all or most of summer, you know? What is the cut-off birthday for kindy admission in your area? Where I live, the child has to turn 5 by Sept 30 to start kindergarten in August.
Oh that's a good idea. Maybe I can find something and put both kids in for the morning a few days a week! food for thought!
He does talk to me about it when it's not in the moment. We did talk about it and he understands now. I just hope he can see it when it happens and keep himself from doing it!
The cutoff for my district is 5 by Oct 1st. Her bday is Oct 2.