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post #81 of 221
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BTW, got af.gif today. right on time. 13 day lp and O day the same as last cycle. looks like my body is getting back to normal.

i keep forgetting to mention, did you all notice kellen's new avatar in my signature? he picked it out. lol.gif
post #82 of 221

I just have a quick second, but I think it's kind of narrow-minded to say that if mother's want to breastfeed their babies then they should just find a way not to work. It's not at all as simple as that. I realize the response will be that it's a choice, but everything can be a "choice", that doesn't make it a valid one for any intelligent human. When the choice is go into debt, not be able to afford food, your home, etc, and end up homeless, or go to work and find a breastpump to allow you to continue providing breastmilk for your baby, you can't really call that a valid choice. This woman could just choose to stop breastfeeding and feed formula, since it's easier and doesn't require a breastpump, but why wouldn't we want to make it an option for her to both continue to make money to feed her family and to provide breastmilk for her baby?

 

Look at it this way-- people want insurance companies to cover homebirths and midwives. Why? because women should have the option. Because it's safer. Because it's cheaper for the insurance company. But... you could still have a natural birth with a short stay in the hospital, couldn't you? Yes, but it's a long easier to achieve that natural uninterrupted (and cheaper) birth, with a midwife, or at home.  Same as... you can breastfeed without a pump. But it can become a lot easier (and thus cheaper for the families, and healthier), if you provide access to a pump. Breastfeeding is a crucial right that needs to be supported more, and women need more options that aren't the ridgid "Stay home and breastfeed for 2 years without doing anything". That's why so many women don't bother breastfeeding at all. They know they'll have to stop once they go back to work (in their eyes), so it's not worth starting. If we made pumps more accessible to these mamas, more babies might be breastfed. And with that the future generations are healthier, and smarter. We know that being fed breastmilk decreases so many childhood illnesses and complications, thus lowering medical costs to the insurance companies. Why the heck wouldn't they want to cover a pump? Kwim?

 

 

Blah. Busy busy busy day here at work today. I didn't stop moving a mile a minute from 7am-330pm. Inhaled my lunch while returning emails (and later pumped while returning emails). I've been thinking more lately about the work/home/money balance. I would love to bring in more money and feel more secure. We're making our bills and everyhting, don't get me wrong, but we have no savings right now with trying to reno the basement still. And we would love to find some money to take a trip. But it's not happening. 

 

Plus, I love working. I really do enjoy being there, being challenged. It's a good feeling, and it is a sense of respite. On the other hand, I can't imagine being away from Tenley for more time than I already am. I feel like I need more hours in the day. I want to work more, but I also want more time with her. And there's no way to do that!

 

Anywho, off to actually you know, spend time with her for a bit!

post #83 of 221
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I didn't say women should find a way not to work. I said if they choose to work, it's their responsibility to find a way to feed their babies the way they want except in the case of some special circumstances. You seemed to have missed everything I said about poor women and families and about government providing services rather than forcing private companies to provide those services.

And, no, you cannot have a natural birth in a hospital. You can have an unmedicated birth but there's nothing natural about the way that birth is handled in hospitals, at least not here in the US. Studies have shown that women's bodies go into distress as soon as they enter the hospital environment. That's not natural. Every hospital I have ever heard of requires a heplock at the very least, if not a full IV. That is not natural. Monitors and machines and bright lights and cervical exams and restricted food and liquid intact are not natural.
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The hospital I delivered Ava at does not require a heplock. It's pretty close to natural. I attended a birth there as a doula and we kept the lights off, she labored in the tub, she could eat, drink, move around, etc. Their only restriction is you aren't supposed to birth in water but it does happen sometimes.

 

I think that private insurance covers a lot of unnecessary things. I also think that the price of health care in this country is WAAAAAAY overinflated. Every time Ava's neonatologist stopped at her beside with his gaggle of residents, he charged our insurance $940. Was his care really worth that? For Ava, no IMO. Her cardiologists were much more responsible for keeping her alive until her first surgery not the neonatologist. But for a 25 weeker? Yeah, his time was probably worth that. I think it's just a mess all around.

 

Work stuff, I hear you JJ. I enjoy my time at work, most of the time. It's nice to get a break, be around grownups, etc. But I hate that Ava is not cared for completely between me and DH. That's not an issue with my job though. That's an issue of my DH not thinking that he could work 7 AM- 3 PM and then do email correspondence after Ava goes to bed. So because of his choice (he would say it's not a choice but I feel differently) she has to go to a sitter. I hate that part of it. I wouldn't even mind if she could go to my mom's every afternoon. At least she would be cared for by family, YKWIM?

 

MW, how many cycles have you had PP? That's great that your body is regulating so quickly. My cycles are short but it's because I'm not being good about taking my thyroid meds. If I buckled down on that, my LP would lengthen.

 

My friend's baby's funeral is on Monday. Aside from having car issues and not being able realistically travel the 3 hrs roundtrip, I just don't think I can emotionally handle going. I'll take Ava to church and we will light a candle and say prayers for the other baby.

 

Ava's 18 month WBV tomorrow. I expect a bit of a fight from her pedi about the shots. He wasn't very happy with me at her 15 month WBV but I've thought about it and I have a well planned reason to give him now. I didn't plan well before and so I feel like I bumbled through it and made excuses. My reasoning is this: Since her reaction to each shot has increased with every dose, I'm not comfortable giving any more to her until she is older and has more language to communicate what is hurting or bothering her when she gets one. Also her surgeon said that we should treat her like a four-chambered heart when making decisions and if she was heart-healthy, I would be delaying/declining shots. I've researched the data on VPDs on the CDC site and I'm comfortable with the risk. As for the flu shot, again, I'm not comfortable with how negatively her body has reacted to shots in the past so I researched supplements for immune support and she is only daily doses of those that provide almost as much protection as the shot. The shot is rated at around 60% effective for helping you not get the flu and vit D and elderberry are both around 50% effective. I'm ok with that. He may tell me that he can't see her anymore as a patient. That would make me sad because I feel like we do have a good working relationship but I just know how peeved he was at me at her 15 month visit. We'll see. I may be making a mountain out of a mole hill.

 

Ava is 18 months. Can you guys flippin' believe that? dizzy.gif

post #85 of 221
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i keep forgetting to mention, did you all notice kellen's new avatar in my signature? he picked it out. lol.gif

I love it! Super fun!

post #86 of 221

Annie - going in well planned is a great idea. I hope you can continue your working releationship - given Ava's heart, I know having a regular peditatrician is something that's important, and it's hard finding ones that line up with your thinking.

 

I think natural birth is something that just depends on who you ask. There are those for whom an out of hospital birth simply isn't a viable option (for them or their babies) due to health conditions, so an unmedicated, relatively intervention free birth is as natural as they get - and I think they'd call their births "natural". Either way, I wish insurance and everything would encorage more natural birthing options - it's cheaper and better for everyone, generally speaking. think of all the money the insurance companies would save if epidurals stopped being routine. (granted, obviously the drug companies and anesthesiologists would make less too, LOL)

 

I don't think you have to a "poor woman or family" to need to work. I don't really qualify as poor. But I need to work. It's not about maintaining a standard of living. And my family does help out, tremendously. We live with them practically for free, and they feed us a meal a day (that they don't have to - but it's easier on everybody to eat dinner together). It's hard to ask them to do more than that. My mom would love if I could stay at home. It's just not in the cards. And probably a good 75% of the women that I know that work (that have children under 5) work because they must - sometimes it's just for benefits, and sometimes it's putting food on the table. I'd probably love health insurance if I had a child that needed special health attention, like Ava. and I might yet - they've been healthy thus far. Stuff happens. But in the meantime it seems ridiculous. Oh well.

 

On to happier topics!

 

LOL, love his new avatar! and yay for AF! (I think)

 

Happy 18 months to Ava! that's fantastic! only 6 more months until she is TWO. That's crazy.

 

I can't believe Norah will be a big sister before she's 18 months. I never saw that coming.

 

She and Gabe are so cute together. She's starting to fight back, which depending on his mood either irritates him or amuses him. Last night I was rocking her to sleep, and Gabe sat next to us, and they held hands, giggled, and and patted each other until she fell asleep. I so wish I could have got that on camera. A memory to treasure. I admit things between them aren't always so fabulous, but those flashes of really good moments make me so, so happy. It's like, hooray, doing something right!

post #87 of 221
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Doing the sibling walk through tour the first week of February with Gabe at the hospital. They have a class too if the kid will be in the delivery room, but I don't intend to have Gabe there.

 

Coffee is starting to kick in . . . mmmm. Materity pics on Saturday! I hope the photographer will have some previews posted to FB Sunday or Monday!

 

That's neat!!
And I can't wait to see picssss!!!

 

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BTW, got af.gif today. right on time. 13 day lp and O day the same as last cycle. looks like my body is getting back to normal.

i keep forgetting to mention, did you all notice kellen's new avatar in my signature? he picked it out. lol.gif

 

Hooray for a regular cycle and LOL at that pic!!  Hahaha!

I just changed mine b/c the sleepy mama one wasn't quite true.  I'm sleepy but I find I'm laughing thru my days so much more than dragging.  love.gif

 

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Plus, I love working. I really do enjoy being there, being challenged. It's a good feeling, and it is a sense of respite. On the other hand, I can't imagine being away from Tenley for more time than I already am. I feel like I need more hours in the day. I want to work more, but I also want more time with her. And there's no way to do that!

 

I so get what you mean.  I miss working for those reasons!

 

 

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The hospital I delivered Ava at does not require a heplock. It's pretty close to natural. I attended a birth there as a doula and we kept the lights off, she labored in the tub, she could eat, drink, move around, etc. Their only restriction is you aren't supposed to birth in water but it does happen sometimes.

 

 

 

 

My friend's baby's funeral is on Monday. Aside from having car issues and not being able realistically travel the 3 hrs roundtrip, I just don't think I can emotionally handle going. I'll take Ava to church and we will light a candle and say prayers for the other baby.

 

Ava's 18 month WBV tomorrow. I expect a bit of a fight from her pedi about the shots. He wasn't very happy with me at her 15 month WBV but I've thought about it and I have a well planned reason to give him now. I didn't plan well before and so I feel like I bumbled through it and made excuses. My reasoning is this: Since her reaction to each shot has increased with every dose, I'm not comfortable giving any more to her until she is older and has more language to communicate what is hurting or bothering her when she gets one. Also her surgeon said that we should treat her like a four-chambered heart when making decisions and if she was heart-healthy, I would be delaying/declining shots. I've researched the data on VPDs on the CDC site and I'm comfortable with the risk. As for the flu shot, again, I'm not comfortable with how negatively her body has reacted to shots in the past so I researched supplements for immune support and she is only daily doses of those that provide almost as much protection as the shot. The shot is rated at around 60% effective for helping you not get the flu and vit D and elderberry are both around 50% effective. I'm ok with that. He may tell me that he can't see her anymore as a patient. That would make me sad because I feel like we do have a good working relationship but I just know how peeved he was at me at her 15 month visit. We'll see. I may be making a mountain out of a mole hill.

 

Ava is 18 months. Can you guys flippin' believe that? dizzy.gif

 

I think another problem is the term Natural.  Ask some mamas and natural birth = vaginal.  To another it's unmedicated.  To another, like me, it's a homebirth with a midwife. I think it's just so subjective, and what truly matters is how THAT mama feels about her birth.  We can't take away what it is based on a loose definition of a word.  

 

I truly like your thinking on the vaccines.  If your ped threatens to fire you, so be it.  I believe you can find another who will jive with your goals.  I bet he won't tho.  Im sure with an explanation like that and a plan, you'll be set.

There is one ped in my group who is very fussy about vaccines.  I just choose not to do visits with him.  He wanted me to map out a schedule of vaccines and I said I'm comfortable with thinking one step ahead only.  He took that as an answer, and I followed thru, b/c I was ok with that and it was truly my original plan.  I just made him feel like it had been his plan.  winky.gif

 

And OMG 18 months!  Finn is 17 months, and it BLOWS my mind!!  Our babies are closer to 2 than we realize!!

 

 

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I can't believe Norah will be a big sister before she's 18 months. I never saw that coming.

 

She and Gabe are so cute together. She's starting to fight back, which depending on his mood either irritates him or amuses him. Last night I was rocking her to sleep, and Gabe sat next to us, and they held hands, giggled, and and patted each other until she fell asleep. I so wish I could have got that on camera. A memory to treasure. I admit things between them aren't always so fabulous, but those flashes of really good moments make me so, so happy. It's like, hooray, doing something right!

 

Holy moly, no I'm sure you didn't!  But she and Teddy (is that what we're calling him still?)  are going to be super close.  I have a feeling they won't fight as much as Gabe and Norah.  OH -- funny you said that about the H.  Ever since seeing your daughter's name, Nora has been spelling her name with an H at the end!!  LOL!  Grass is always greener I suppose!!!

 

I'm so far behind so I'll just do an AFM - lately we are doing really great.  Having fun, etc.  The only issue I'm really having is finn is a darter.  Like, he bolts.  as soon as his feet hit the ground he's GONE.  And I don't believe in leashes for many reasons so it's a lot of hand holding and putting him back in the stroller if it's with us, otherwise on my back.  Nora wasn't like this.  She would explore but she'd always stay close.  I really hope this stage doesn't last too too long, b/c I'm honestly OVER it.  

At IKEA he ran from the play area so I followed him, about 20-30 paces behind just to see what he'd do.  He took off.  Ran around the storage bins, around a corner, past a stairwell and into the cafeteria.  W/o looking back once.  Laughing and running and just GONE.  Imagine if I'd not been looking when he took off?  Sigh.  This boy.

post #88 of 221
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Dylan finally slept for more than a couple of hours straight last night. We got 6 full hours (I think)! I knew I was going to jinx it if I told you all he had been essentially STTN. Sure enough, he started waking every 2-3 hours again right after I told you all that. lol.gif I think he's pretty much over the illness he had. He still has a cough but no fever and he's definitely acting more happy, playful and independent. If that was the flu, it was very short lived and not bad at all. Maybe taking him to the chiropractor helped? I'm sure that breastfeeding did. thumb.gif

I agree that "natural" in terms of birth is very subjective. I googled and got a bunch of stuff about how it means birth with minimal routine medical intervention. I disagree with that. I think it's being defined as if a medical birth is what's normal when it should be defined the other way around in the same way that feeding a baby should start with breastfeeding and everything else should be defined based on that as what's normal. Start with the assumption that normal birth can and does happen without any help or interference and define medical births in varying degrees based on that.

I guess I hold a more strict definition of what natural means. To me, it means to follow nature. Going to a hospital for birth is not natural. Nature didn't set up hospitals for females to give birth. Our bodies are designed to give birth freely without the need for any intervention. That does not mean that every woman who ever lived can give birth. There are always anomalies. However, the majority (which is anything over 50%) of women's bodies are (or were because who knows how modern medicine and agriculture and industry may have changed things) able to give birth without any intervention at all.

Do you really need to work? Your husband couldn't work more than one job or get a job that's more lucrative? He chose to pursue being a massage therapist knowing he wouldn't be making very much money (at least initially) and you chose to support him that while having babies, which put you in a position of being the primary financial supporter of your family and, therefore, having to leave your brestfeeding infants for extended periods. However, that circumstance could be changed if you chose to change it. I'm not saying that you are doing the wrong thing or that should change it. I'm saying that you do have other options.

Off to the chiropractor. I feel this post may be a bit disjointed and unclear and maybe missing some explanations but I don't have time to proofread. I've been interrupted I don't know how many times and now I need to grab something to eat fast and run out the door.
post #89 of 221

Glad Dylan is feeling better!

getting more sleep is always a good thing.

 

DH was working a job that could have supported us with me staying at home (barring the debt we were in), but was laid off. And despite many attempts, there just isn't work for him right now in that field that makes sense financially or hour wise. being a massage therapist, he actually makes far more per hour, with a much more flexible schedule than anything else I think he could do. It's just not enough to completely support us. And that's ok. Priority wise, it keeps the kids out of daycare and will allow us to homeschool, so in that much it is a choice. Or I could stay at home and never see him, have an awful home life and no break because he works endless hours. Jobs here suck.

 

Oooh, Chiropractor. Next week - I need to go more often. enjoy your adjustment!

 

Carrie: what is it with these babies/toddlers??? Norah is the same way, such a bolter! I do believe in leashes, but I am always forgetting. So stroller and babywearing it is! I only can let her walk when I have extra hands with me. I can't keep up with as fast as she will run.  NIP is going to be fun with this next one. I am very glad I can nurse in a carrier.

 

So far, people are calling him Theo, but we'll see what happens once he arrives.

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Kat - was gabe more of a stay close to mom kind of kid?  Idk what to do!  LOL!  I feel like Finn is getting more used to holding hands.  I'm ok with that, I prefer it.  And it gives him more freedom than being worn or being in the stroller.  When he gets frustrated with hand holding he drops to his knees, and that's when I'll pick him up.

 

I'm in the process of weaning finn to one side.  I have bone crushing guilt over this.  It seems so final and I hate myself for it, but i'm getting this awful repulsion when he nurses on the right side.  His latch is fine, he's not being an acrobat.  He sits and nicely nurses, but it just feels like twiddling.  Only on that one side.  I want to literally peel him off of me, and that's not healthy or working for me.  This also happened when Nora was 18 months, so it must just be something about me.  guilty.gif  I'm down to 2 sessions per day (mid morning, and midday) on the right side that I'm gritting my teeth thru.  It's uncomfortable at times with engorgement.  Anyone heard of anything like this?  I'm still nursing freely on the left, and have no issues on that side.

 

I lost 1.8 lbs this past week on WW!  first loss so far in a LONG time!

post #91 of 221
Ava's appt went well. She's just under 20 lbs and 29.5 inches. I explained my position to her pedi when he asked me what shots we were doing today. He didn't really say anything so I just asked him point blank if that made him uncomfortable to wait. He said it did because his concern is Ava getting Pertussis, which as a cardiac baby, I can see his point. But she's had 3 out of 5 doses so we both agreed she would most likely be ok. I also asked his opinion on an action plan for us if Ava ever stopped breathing at home or was struggling to breathe. Since we are less than 10 mins from her hospital, my first inclination is to scoop and run if DH is home. He could drive while I do compressions. DH's inclination is to call 911. They are 2 mins away. So we asked her pedi and he was able to give us clinical advice as well as speak to what he and his wife did when their cardiac baby would have issues. They almost always scooped and ran. One time they called 911. He said that if I'm having to administer CPR, I should call 911. If I want to then start driving towards the hospital and have them catch up, that would be a good compromise. Ava waved goodbye to him and even blew him a kiss when he was leaving. She can be such a sweetheart sometimes!
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She's grown, no!? Yay Ava!  I'm glad you spoke about your concerns with the shots.  I'm glad it wasn't an issue!

I would never think to not call 911 in that situation, is it actually faster/better to just go to the hospital ER?  Is there a big risk at this time of her having an episode or an issue like that compared to a non CHD child?

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She has grown. She's tracking along her own little growth curve so everyone is happy with that. Genetics still wants to see her in April for a follow-up so we'll do that. My instinct to scopp and run is based on me wanting to start the process to fix what's wrong. DH's inclination is to call for help. That makes us a pretty good team when Ava has had issues in the past. After one of her caths when she was in recovery, we were in the room alone with her and she started doing this choking/gagging thing and desatting. Without either of us saying anything, I sat Ava up, cleared her airway and started administering oxygen. DH ran for a nurse. By the time the nurse arrived, I had gotten Ava back to a good spot. If we lived further away from her hospital, I probably wouldn't be inclined to scoop and run. If I were home alone with her, I would definitely call 911. Ava's heart will never be perfect and she will get sicker as her right ventricle gets larger and weaker from not having the pulmonary valve. So yes, she does have a higher chance of respiratory distress or a cardiac event than a non-CHD kid.
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Lauri - It just bears repeating.  You are amazing. bow.gif

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MW, Lauri - do Dylan or Ava have a lot of words?  i was over my friends house today and her 17 mo old was TALKING!  I was like OMG!  He pointed to the tv and said, "Barney!" and then kept finding stuffed animal monkeys and saying, "monkey! Monkey!" and he was able to, when he demanded a "ma-na-nah" (banana), when his mom said, "Use manners, say please," He said, "Please, ma-na-nah!"

 

Ooooh I can't WAIT for talking!!  I was like whoa that could be Finn in a month or two!!

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One of the questions today on her 18 month eval was if she had 15-20 words. I had to count but she has about 15 words. She says "poop" when she's pooped, "bubble" when she wants a bath, "up" when she wants me to pick her up. One of the other questions was if she says two word sentences. She does NOT do that. Her pedi said that was fine.

When I stop and think about things we've had to do on this journey, it's just crazy to me. But it's like the frog in the pot thing. It's small things and all of sudden, you have oxygen in your house because your child can't breathe well when she eats. That's freaking crazy. Thankfully we are not there any more but it just becomes your normal, you know? You guys would do the same.
post #97 of 221
if I think hard

tickle
mama
dada
yes
no
nora
this
that
boob

I think that's it...

he signs for sleep, all done, and milk.

I know we would all do the same for our babies, but I still think how gracefully you handle it all is inspiring.

house hunting is stressful!!
post #98 of 221
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Ryan and Kellen were darters. Ethan was not. I could walk with him outside and he would always stay on the sidewalk. He never even stepped on the curb, much less try to step off it. He would go ahead of me but not too far and always come back on his own. I lost Ryan in a store once. It was scary. A woman found him and brought him to me. She was not very nice about it, very judgey. Whatever. eyesroll.gif My mom lost Ryan at Ocean City once. She didn't tell me about that until like 3 years later because she knew I would freak. He was 5 or 6, I think, and was able to find his way to her car where he sat and waited. Pretty amazing considering she hadn't gone over what to do if that happened.

Dylan doesn't seem to be a darter so far. We walked around our neighborhood the other day. He did try to wander into the street a couple of times but got the idea not to pretty quickly. Yesterday, we were at the park and he was hanging back from the group a bit. A couple of times he slipped around a wall so I couldn't see him but was always just on the other side. He didn't try to run off or hide. I haven't tried walking with him in a store yet. I either put him in a cart, the stroller or in a carrier. I put him in my ring sling to go into the yarn store yesterday and he kept straightening himself like a board. He wanted to get down. I thought the ring sling would be a good idea because it is quick and easy and adjustable, but nope. I won't be using that again. I'll stick to my pouch, mei tai or Boba. Don't ask me why he doesn't try to straighten himself in the pouch. shrug.gif

He doesn't have many words. He can say poo and butt and that or what's that, although it sounds like wassat. He may have said Daddy a week or so ago but hasn't repeated it. He might be trying to say dog and cat but I'm not quite sure. He may have more. I, honestly, don't pay much attention to that. He doesn't sign at all.

That's actually one reason I refuse to do WBVs. I think it's ridiculous that they want me to fill out a huge packet of developmental type questions that have such a wide range of normal. It can cause worry and concern for parents who don't understand that even if the doc does tell them it's fine if they aren't here or there yet. I figure by now I'm experienced and attentive enough that I'll know if one of my children has an issue that I think needs addressing. Also, since we homeschool, those types of things just aren't very important. I don't have to worry about anyone being behind for school or needing special ed or accommodations.
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DH was working a job that could have supported us with me staying at home (barring the debt we were in), but was laid off. And despite many attempts, there just isn't work for him right now in that field that makes sense financially or hour wise. being a massage therapist, he actually makes far more per hour, with a much more flexible schedule than anything else I think he could do. It's just not enough to completely support us. And that's ok. Priority wise, it keeps the kids out of daycare and will allow us to homeschool, so in that much it is a choice. Or I could stay at home and never see him, have an awful home life and no break because he works endless hours. Jobs here suck.

I forgot he had gotten laid off. What was he doing before?

But, yeah, that's the choice you have made to live the life you do. I have chosen to stay home, hardly see my dh because he's not home much, and never really get a break from my kids. It gets exhausting and frustrating sometimes but I wouldn't say my home life is awful. I definitely wouldn't choose to go back to work even though it would be very lucrative.

I should go to bed. Everyone else is in bed. I'm kind of enjoying the quiet for a bit. We discussed implementing a bedtime routine at our last counseling session. DH was supposed to start getting the kids ready for bed at 9 pm. He hasn't done it one night this week. Just tonight at around 10 or 10:30 he sat down in a chair in the living room and asked the room if we were going to bed or staying up until 11. Then he fell asleep. eyesroll.gif

We have a long weekend. I think he's going to try to put the new back door in. Maybe he'll start working on fixing the fence since we've been talking about getting a puppy again.

The chiro was nice. She adjusted all of us, including Kellen. Ethan and I go back again Monday but Kellen and Dylan don't need to go regularly. Did I tell you that she described a slight curvature in Ethan's spine that sounds exactly like the curvature I was told I had in my spine at about the same age from a scoliosis check at school? She said it isn't scoliosis and is most likely caused by his hips being crooked. Seems that he may have the same back construction that I do, which I probably got from my dad who has had back problems for as long as he can remember.
post #99 of 221
I need to start going back to the chiro. I loved my weekly appts when I was pg. I don't have an extra $30/week right now but maybe in a couple of months.

Ava isn't much of a darter but we've been working on walking/staying with me since before she was walking. I would let her crawl around on the floor in stores and I would always remind her to stay with me. She's not running yet though so I may change my tune! I don't take a stroller or carrier with me when we go shopping. She just walks beside me or asks me to carry her. Sometimes she rides in the grocery cart but a lot of the time she likes to push it.

The questionaires were kind of silly in my opinion, especially the MCHAT one for autism screening. To me, the wording is such that you know the "bad" questions, if that makes sense. Then Ava's pedi said the word count question was wtong, it's only supposed to be 10 words at 18 months.
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Sometimes she rides in the grocery cart but a lot of the time she likes to push it.

I was out shopping somewhere last week and I saw a toddler pushing one of those small carts. So cute! Giving the LOs something to do alongside you can definitely help keep them close.
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The questionnaires were kind of silly in my opinion, especially the MCHAT one for autism screening. To me, the wording is such that you know the "bad" questions, if that makes sense. Then Ava's pedi said the word count question was wtong, it's only supposed to be 10 words at 18 months.

See, why do they use it then? Why don't they correct that? I bet there are a lot of parents who don't know that and will get all upset that their child doesn't have the maximum # words, much less the minimum.

That's one really wonderful thing about unschooling. It doesn't really matter if your child has any supposed developmental delays. Since you are approaching life and learning from wherever the child is and what they are capable at the moment, they aren't ever behind or needing any special education. They are where they are and that's perfect.

Could you go to the chiro once a month or even once very two months? Some is better than none. I'm only able to afford this because we are refinancing and I just decided to splurge because I'm tired of being in pain. Plus, this new chiro who just opened up shop is very reasonably priced not including the extra military discount I get and I like her. She got very excited when I told her I had my last two babies at home, that they aren't vaccinated at all. Ethan and I are going once or twice a week now but soon we should be down to once a month and then only for maintenance every few months.

Did I tell you all that the last paycheck Sean got was sort of a fluke? It was low because the Marine Corps finally collected the money to pay for his food while he in the field doing training back in October. So, his paycheck should go back up to where it was. fingersx.gif

Oh, and I wanted to add to what I said in my last post about my life not being awful. Yes, Sean and I are having some issues right now but that has nothing to do with me not working. It has a lot to do with Sean's job but that wouldn't be any different if I was working because he would still have the same job.
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