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[TIFF4NY]

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[Cananny]

Hello :)

Lets see.. My partner and I are expecting our 1st 2nd and 3rd babies. ..We are 27 weeks 4 days and scheduled for a C section on Feb 25th. when we will be 34 weeks.

We TTC with my partner with a known donor for about 10 months and she hated the roller coaster, So since I had the good insurance we saw a fertility specialist ( I have PCOS) and it took 5 medicated IUI cycles and got the shock of our lives when we found out we were having triplets.. We used a donor from a local Cyro bank. 

We live in the bay area Cali and love it but it is very expensive to live here. . we are exploring other options once the triplets are a bit older.

Feel free to ask away

[sams_mama]

Wow - you're so close to meeting your boys!

Will you dress them in matching outfits?

Do you have names picked out?

[Cananny]

We are close... 6 weeks away.. seems crazy we will have them so soon

We do not plan to dress them alike.. though we do have a few outfits to match .. and lots of duplicates.. we want to try and foster their own self.. just because they are triplets. they still are individuals.. 

We have names...

Gage Daniel 

August Michael

And Finn Edward 

[firespiritmelody]

How do you plan to tell them apart, in the beginning when they might look a lot alike?

In our house, we color code a lot of things - it just worked out well that each girl has had their own favorite color and it's different for each of them, thank goodness! Will you assign colors or anything like that to help distinguish whose stuff is whose?

I think I remember you mentioning that you were hoping to bf, how are you feeling about that? Are you interested in (or able to get) donor milk in your area?

How did you and your partner meet?

[TIFF4NY]

You say you are considering other options as far as where to live... Any places in mind yet?

[Cananny]

We hope since they are fraternal that they look diff but my partner wants to get baby bracelets made with their names engraved ... But until then we will do a color each

I do hope to pump or maybe Bf while in nicu and def plan on using donor milk luckily we live in the Bay Area so it's usually pretty available.. I am fine if we need to sup with formula as well.. My thoughts are some bm is better than none:)

We met online 3 yrs ago .. We fell pretty quickly and she's a great support and takes very good care of me...

Other areas... Portland Oregon ... Or Seattle Wa... We need to b in a relatively big city for Dp to find a good paying nanny job , and one that is queer friendly

[TIFF4NY]

Having lived in both of those cities I can highly recommend them! 

[firespiritmelody]

Seattle's great

Do you know what colors you'll use for which baby? (I'm a color nut so I'm curious lol) 

[IronMam]

No question coming to mind at the moment. But I'm lurking.

[Cananny]

We have not really thought of colors yet.. but we try to stay clear of steryotypical blue.. so maybe orange, green and purple... 

We hear Seattle is nice.. we have never been but alot of DP family has moved up near there.. so thats one reason we are considering it.. 

My family is in AZ and we seriously thought of moving there when we found out it was triplets.. but it is very UN gay friendly.. DP would have no rights to the babies and she would have to commute at least 30-45 mins each way to work.. but the idea of 900.00 month rent for a big house was tempting~

[jessmn]

I have another vote for Seattle! :) Or Portland, although I have not lived there as an adult.
 

Did you assign a name to each one (A, B, C) or are those the three names you've picked out? (We have two picked out but haven't assigned them yet)

[bambihelton]

So excited about your THREE boys!! 

What do you foresee being a challenge as far as having three newborns rather than just one? 

 

[Cananny]

The boys will be named as they come out... So the 1 st baby out will be Gage, the 2 nd will be August and 3 rd will be Finn... That's the order we picked their names so its easiest to us:)

The biggest challenge is sleep... And getting out .. I'm such an on the go person I wonder how having three babies is going to impact that... I'm going stir crazy now and I'm only on mod bed rest ... So we plan to try and get a pretty rigid schedule right from the get go... P.s. boys are you listening

[TIFF4NY]

Cananny - I'm sure you've got a lot of offers, but I'm only an hour drive away if you ever need any help or even just some company. 

[jessmn]

Originally Posted by Cananny 

The boys will be named as they come out... So the 1 st baby out will be Gage, the 2 nd will be August and 3 rd will be Finn... That's the order we picked their names so its easiest to us:)
 

Good idea! Now I'll have to try to remember which name we picked out first :P

[firespiritmelody]

We can't even name one boy (so far), I can't imagine having to come up with *3* names!!

I've always wondered - the babies are currently labeled A, B & C, right? When they're born, will they be born in that order? Or will it be random as to who comes out first? Just curious!

[Kara9080]

have you met other twin/triplet mommies?

are you in a mommies group?

a gay mommy group?

have you felt supported by both of your families?

do you have everything you need?

[Cananny]

The boys are labeled abc and they may or may not come out that way... It's why we decided to name them once they r coming out!

I have met other twin and triplet moms both gay and not.. We just met a lesbian couple who had triplets a week ago! They live close by so we are excited to have our trios hang out! We also have a queer mama and papa play group! Lots of support ... It's the reason we stayed here... We r contemplating moving once they are older but love our community !
We have been so lucky with a great baby shower and the generous hand me downs we have clothes until they are 2 yrs!
We still need a monitor a diaper bag and maybe some preemie size pre folds... We r using disp when they first come home but would like to use cloth sooner .. It's something we are contemplating buying ...

My mom is very excited and sad she doesn't live close by.. She will come stay once boys are out of nicu for about 5-6 weeks..
My partners fam is happy and supportive but we wonder how involved they will be... Her mom was a little sad it wasn't her daughter carrying but she's been great and has made the babies blankets ect....

[bambihelton]

Do you think that you two may later decide to have another child... or children? 

I find the fertility procedures interesting. Just out of curiosity, if you were to try getting pregnant again, would you consider using DP's eggs and you being the one to carry if she was having trouble? Sorry, that might be a little too personal. If it is, just ignore me!.... and I'm not familiar with the correct terms to use there.