I guess I'm just looking for support. After a lot of soul searching I made the choice to convert from Lutheranism (how I grew up) to Catholicism. This took so much energy on my part, I was really diligent and made completely certain that it was what I wanted.
After making the decision I met with the Monsignor and the director of religious education. I entered the period of inquiry. I signed up to get started with the RCIA. I was really feeling excited and content, like I was making the absolute right choice. Until today.
I found out today that I cannot convert at this time. My husband was married before, and though he had grounds for annulment, he went the civil route and never annulled his marriage through the church. They gently told me today that our marriage of 11 year is invalid in the eyes of the church and that for me to convert he has to formally annul the previous marriage.
They did say that given the circumstances the tribunal absolutely will grant it. It just may take a few years. He has to meet with them. We have to have three people who were present at that time in his life write up documents to submit to the church. They have to contact her so she can protect her rights. Then if the tribunal agrees they will annul the marriage at which point we can have ours blessed.
This isn't the end of the world, but we are not at the same point in our paths and I'm really not sure he will be willing to do this. He would, for me, but I'm not sure that's fair to ask. It would not be something he'd be interested in doing, if that makes sense. I feel pretty strongly about it though and didn't receive the news in anger. I honestly didn't know about this at all, having not been raised in the Catholic church-but it makes sense and feels important. And I feel stuck, because I'm no longer in charge of my path, if that makes sense.
I just feel so heartbroken right now. I could use any words of wisdom anyone has to offer.