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post #21 of 29
Is continuing to practice as a Catholic in the meantime not an option? Will they not let you attend mass or receive communion until the annulment?
post #22 of 29
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Originally Posted by DHinJersey View Post

Is continuing to practice as a Catholic in the meantime not an option? Will they not let you attend mass or receive communion until the annulment?

 

If this were the issue, I'd be finding another parish.

post #23 of 29

I would not rely on the prist information alone. They tend to be way behind in changes in cannon law and it's interpretations.

Example - to these day some prists in some parishes believe that they can not assist in a burial of a miscarriage child

because he is simply unbaptized. Not true, law changed and now they can.

Also a suicide - the same applies, it is now okay to give a funeral, it was not until 1976.

 

Just to give you example that the law might be one thing and local interpretation or knowledge - another thing.

 

What I personally find highly illogical is that once you are in the church and you are divorced (and that happens a lot and I do not mean

divorced in the church or annulled or wahever, I am talking civil divorce of a catholic marriage) then you are still in the church,

nobody kicks you out, nobody makes any rules. Of course you can't go to the communion but aside from that you are still a member

of a church and even you can go to convession and participate in other life aspects.

 

Of course a question would be why  the church would not allow a divorced person to enter since church is an institution of love

and following Jesus alone who would be the first to include those who needed him.. It is highly strange that Jesus could include

a woman of a questionable moral status and the church won't include civil divorce person? hm..

After all being a member of a church is about you and divorce is about two. Is it fair to take responsibility for a spouse who

might have be a reason for divorce?

post #24 of 29
Actually, people who are divorced are still welcome to receive Communion in the Church as well (provided they do not have other mortal sins on their soul). It is only if they remarry outside the Church that they are not allowed to receive Communion. Of course anyone is welcome in the Church and able to participate in parish life, even if they are not able to receive Communion. After all, the Church is the best place to be for sinners, and I'm speaking about all of us here, but the Eucharist is really the heart of the Church, and it's a big piece to be missing. Once you understand how important it is, it is a real trial to not be able to receive it, and I would want to see any temporary need resolved as quickly as possible.
post #25 of 29

Why do you want to belong to a spiritual institution who does not want you?

post #26 of 29
I am a devout Catholic, and I can tell you we do want you! Many people have to go through the annulment process, and we want them all! I even want the people who are not living in accordance with Church teaching...there is room for EVERYONE because Jesus wants everyone. Even if you have to wait to officially convert, you can still attend Catholic church. Never feel strange about coming.
post #27 of 29
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If this were the issue, I'd be finding another parish.

 

Its not a matter of finding another parish non Catholics cannot participate in Communion. Or at least that's the way it was the last time I went to mass. (I'm an Ex-Catholic). I think the ONLY denomination of Christianity that can partake in communion are the Greek Orthodox. 

She can still go to mass. 

OP good luck with your conversion. Even though I moved away from the church, I converted myself to another faith and I know its hard to make that step only to be foiled along your way. *hugs* 

 

post #28 of 29
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Its not a matter of finding another parish non Catholics cannot participate in Communion. Or at least that's the way it was the last time I went to mass. (I'm an Ex-Catholic). I think the ONLY denomination of Christianity that can partake in communion are the Greek Orthodox. 

She can still go to mass. 

OP good luck with your conversion. Even though I moved away from the church, I converted myself to another faith and I know its hard to make that step only to be foiled along your way. *hugs* 

 

 

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post #29 of 29

I JUST went through an annulment.

 

Canon Law states that all annulments must be resolved within 18 months (acceptance or denial).  If you are unable to locate her, you tell this to the tribunal (because you must supply a mailing address for her).  If you are able to locate her/contact her, tell her that you are filing for the annulment, and that if she is uninterested to please contact the tribunal office (what my ex-husband did). They only give the opposing party about a month/maybe 2 months to respond to the inquiry.  If they do not respond, the process continues.  Whoever said the other party has a year was incorrect.

 

Know this- the annulment process is hard.  Maybe it won't be so hard since his first marriage was so short.  But he will have to go into information about himself, his life, and his family.  He will also have to provide all of the information he can about her, her family, and her upbringing.   If he is unable to answer any questions, he needs to provide an answer like "I am unable to answer this question due to ____________________" (example: I am unable to answer this question about [ex-husband's] upbringing because I do not have knowledge about this topic, as we never discussed it)

 

Complete honesty is important.  As for the 3 ppl- parents and siblings are the best people to use (unless they are estranged and/or did not know the ex-wife).

 

My prayers are with you.  Be sure to ask St. Helena to pray for you, and she is the patroness of divorced persons.

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