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[Banana731]

Originally Posted by somegirl99 

Sounds like a good decision.  Our nearest hospital is an hour away, actually there are about 5 hospitals an hour away (in different directions).   The drive to the hospital in labor was quite miserable and the drive back with the newborn was even more so.  Not looking forward to that part again this time, but we're not comfortable doing a homebirth as if we had to transfer it would be an ambulance + helicopter to get to hospital.  I hope your appt with the new OB goes well.

Yikes! You must be in the middle of nowhere. What do most pregnant women do in your area?

[somegirl99]

Originally Posted by Banana731 




Yikes! You must be in the middle of nowhere. What do most pregnant women do in your area?

I am most of the pregnant women (2/3) since we moved out here 4 years ago.    The town has less than 200 people. 

The other woman had her baby about 10 months before DS was born, she had an uneventful home birth. 

I think the other moms I know (with older kids) all did the long drive.

[porcelina]

Ugh, I just need to rant for a minute here. I am sooooo sick of being sick. I have been coughing/hacking/congested since 3 days before Christmas and it is just not going away. I got bronchitis and started to get better, but I think I caught another virus from my 2 year old and now I can't breathe and am becoming hoarse again. I just want a break! I guess the good news is I am not too nauseous anymore.

On top of it, just started DS2 (age 2) at DS1's preschool, and he's having a hard time with it. It is so heartbreaking! I am picking him up after only 3 hours for him to nap at home (while I keep working), and he's happy when I pick him up, but this morning he was very upset. :(

Okay, complaining over now. Sorry, ladies! I hope you are all having a great week!

[GISDiva]

Sorry you're having such a bad run with it, porcelina!  Sneezing is already making my tummy muscles hurt, I can't imagine a hacking cough!  Ouch!

[somegirl99]

porcelina   hope you feel better soon!

We started DS in his preschool (we do 2 days a week) at 2 and the first 2-3 weeks were pretty rough with dropoffs, but he was fine when I picked him up.

We actually found he did better with a bit more time at preschool than with only a 2-3 hour stay there, I guess he needed a bit more time to get used to it.

He got much better after a couple of weeks and now asks to go back all the time.

Also the teachers told me that he would usually calm down a few minutes after I left, which was helpful to know.

I hope your DS gets used to it soon!  It can be heartbreaking to leave them so upset.
 

[carmen358]

I had my first midwife appointment this morning. It went really well AND I got to hear the heartbeat. So exciting

[porcelina]

Thanks for the sympathy, GISDiva and somegirl99! I guess sometimes we just need an extra hug! :)

Carmen, yay for heartbeats!
 

[thecoffeebean]

Yea Carmen! So excited for you!

[mamapigeon]

So thankful for this thread! I've been having a bad week and reading what the rest of you are up to has really improved my mood.   Hope all the colds go away soon! I had about 5 when I was pregnant with DS and the only thing positive I could think of was that at least he would get the antibodies for them when he was nursing.

DS has been climbing all over me, especially my belly, and I worry about my uterus being hit... Anyone else have experience with this? Tips for keeping DS from being too rough with my belly area?

[AUvetmom]

Mamapigeon, I have the same concerns about my son being rough with my uterus. He regularly kicks me when we're laying down nursing and a few weeks ago he headbutted me *right* in the uterus. No advice on how to stop it but I tend to just reassure myself that the baby has multiple layers of protection. It's an early start to abuse by older sibs. :-)

[TiredX2]

Originally Posted by mamapigeon 

DS has been climbing all over me, especially my belly, and I worry about my uterus being hit... Anyone else have experience with this? Tips for keeping DS from being too rough with my belly area?

While it's normal to be super  nervous about the little one, I would try to be logical about it--- if you woundn't be concerned *for your organs* with how hard DS is hitting you, you don't really need to worry about the baby.  Your body is marvelously designed to protect the new little one and some toddler taps are not going to do any damage.

That said, if it *is* hurting you or bothering  you, even, you have the right to bodily atonomy.  When I was pg with DS (DD was 2) I just encouraged her to be careful.  That still left her climbing on me *a lot* though and not meaning to hurt me, but it did get increasingly  uncomfortable.  When I was very pregnant with DS we even went to the midwife and she was climbing all over me and the midwives said it was actually good for the baby--- like a built in stress test and preperation for labor, lol.  They watched his heart respond just perfectly to the stress of the pressure from outside!

[LeighPF]

Mamapigeon

my son could be rough at that age. What worked great for us was "Mama does not play (or nurse, or sit with) boys who hurt her" and to get up and leave. He learned pretty quick and it really took the oxygen away from the fire. When he was ready to be gentle he got big hugs and we moved on.

[HeatherB]

I'm with all those so tired of being sick! Thankfully, the intense nausea that coincided with the beginning of this illness (have to assume flu) is gone. I hardly ate today because its all in my sinuses now and I can't breathe. :/ Of course, now that it's almost midnight, I'm getting hungry and nauseous.

My 2yo has been unbelievably clingy. I'm not sure if it's her dealing with the flu, recovering from it, or being untrusting of my dad. :/ I may take her to the pedi tomorrow if she's not a lot better. We almost never go in for sick visits but I'm starting to worry there's something more.

I told some local doula friends about the baby as we're going to be planning another event this year that will be when baby is about a month old. I'm excited! It's nice to have people know who are genuinely excited about all babies. On the other hand, my kids want to know why we haven't told my inlaws...

[CrunchyMama19]

Yesterday I met with some local midwives and LOVED them.Very natural minded and supportive but low-key and let the mother lead. Very encouraging and just what I was looking for. They will file for our insurance too which is awesome! We won't get reimbursed until after birth and probably only partially but it will still be less than a hospital birth. Now we just have to save up wome cash for our deposit in time for my first prenatal appointment in February at 12 weeks.

Thw weather here has been terrible (cold, rain and ice) and the girls are bouncing off the walls from being cooped up and I am soooo tired still. At least the nausea hasn't been too terrible lately but it is hard thinking of anything I actually want to eat besides peanut butter toast. I am 9 weeks tomorrow so that much closer to feeling like a human being again.
 

ETA: mamapigeon, I agree with TiredX2 and LeighPF. If you aren't comfortable with DS being rough, even though he is small you have a right to tell him to stop and to teach him to be gentle. I have had to do that with both my kids and they are slowly starting to get it. The eventually have to learn to respect other people's space.

[GISDiva]

First midwife appointment tonight.  Squeee!

Any bets on whether she'll be able to find a heartbeat at 9+2 on a fairly small person who looks like she's more like 16 weeks pregnant?  

[Banana731]

No bets here, but I hope you get to hear it!

Telling MIL went better than expected, in case anyone is interested

[GISDiva]

Originally Posted by Banana731 

Telling MIL went better than expected, in case anyone is interested

Good!

[TiredX2]

Originally Posted by Banana731 

Telling MIL went better than expected, in case anyone is interested

I'm glad to hear it!

[LeighPF]

The sick has found me. Not the flu, just enough cold to put me well over the edge. Bee poured a cup of water on me while I was lying on the could and I took me three hours to get up and put on a new shirt. Monkey was nice and brought me a towel eventually.

[FarmerCathy]

Originally Posted by porcelina 

Ugh, I just need to rant for a minute here. I am sooooo sick of being sick. I have been coughing/hacking/congested since 3 days before Christmas and it is just not going away. I got bronchitis and started to get better, but I think I caught another virus from my 2 year old and now I can't breathe and am becoming hoarse again. I just want a break! I guess the good news is I am not too nauseous anymore.

On top of it, just started DS2 (age 2) at DS1's preschool, and he's having a hard time with it. It is so heartbreaking! I am picking him up after only 3 hours for him to nap at home (while I keep working), and he's happy when I pick him up, but this morning he was very upset. :(

Okay, complaining over now. Sorry, ladies! I hope you are all having a great week!

That really bites.  We were like that last Feb., just one sickness after another.  I hope you feel better soon and this is the end of it.

Hoping your 2 yr old gets the hang of it soon.  I'm taking my 16mo DD to MOPS and it seems she stays in the room with the other kids longer and longer.  It'll get better soon.