Can you please advice me if I am doing the right thing.
My son is very fond of cars and whenever we go out he expects us to buy him something or the other. Of course he does not spend much. Just the 2 dollars hotwheeels/match box cars. But i guess that is besides the point.
Also we have put him in Montessori. He is suffering from severe separation anxiety and breakdowns every morning to go to preschool. Also he has become extra cranky of late. He is fig ting with his brothers and crying and skipping his dinner and only asks for milk.
So Day before I had a small discussion with him, showed him a calendar and said I will watch his behavior for the next 20 days. And if he was good all these 20 days without any crankiness, with out any meltdowns, without any fighting then at the end of 20 days we will reward him with a surprise car toy. We will not buy him anything in the middle of these 20 days. I have set up a calendar for him to see for himself his progress. I put a star on each of the days he behaves good so that way he knows when he was good and when he was not. I Will be reviewing this chart every night with him and discussing what he did good, what was unacceptable and writing them down right before him.
So far we are into day 2 and everything is going fine. He was on his best behavior. He is verbally active kid so I tell him if something is bothering him then to communicate it in words with me rather than crying inconsistently.
Do you think what I am doing is right. Cars are something he cherishes a lot. I can't think of any reward system that can work for him.