Hello wise mamas,
I need some advice, ideas about potty training our DS. He is almost 4 and has all the "readiness" signs for potty training but I have no real idea how to begin nor how to do it gently.
Some background - DS has a severe language disorder so he is cognitively/emotionally "typical" but his ability to understand language is very behind. His comprehension is basically closer to a 1-1.5 year old so I can't exactly explain things to him. However, he tells me when he needs to go and clearly can control his system. I've tried putting him on the potty on a schedule but he HATES just being sat on the toilet and has never gone that way. He definitely saw it as punishment and generally doesn't sit still for much of anything.
We tried going without diapers and every time he started peeing I quickly put him over the potty nearby but then he would immediately stop and got very upset every time, like I was punishing him for peeing (even though I was trying to be all positive and encouraging).
I've done books, shown him the Elmo potty video, but nothing seems to be helping.
I guess I feel like, if I could just get him to understand the concept, he would try it but I'm having a hard time even helping him understand what is even supposed to happen. I haven't wanted to push anything but I really do feel like everyone would be happier.
Would love to hear what worked for other kids and if anyone has ideas I would be eternally grateful!