The transition from being single to married to mother is quite a big step. A little overwhelming, I'm certain I'm not the only mother who feels this way. Before becoming a wife and mom I was an independent, hardworking person. Responsible but living life to the fullest. Enjoying all the pleasures of life was something I was happy to be able to do. I never imagined what a change it would be to become who I am now. I have no regrets but I'm certainly happy that I was able to enjoy the luxuries I was able to afford. I love being a mother and wife and I want to be there for my son every step of the way. I enjoy the great times and the tough ones. When my son is acting out and when he is at his sweetest and I wouldn't give up any of these moments.
My son is 15 months old and he's walking around, running, falling, laughs a lot like I do and it's the most precious part of my life. The most precious thing I have ever experienced. They say you never know true love until you have a child and I can certainly say this is a very true statement. My mother-in-law said it best, she said, 'No one can tell you how much to love your child, how to love them or how close to be to them because that child is probably what you really NEEDED.' And he was. He's all I need, I live and breathe for him and I want to give him all the best things. I want him to live life fuller than I did, without stress or strain.
My husband and I are both young and being that he is our only financial source, there is a bit of a strain. I reminisce on the old days and think of how much I would have been able to bring to the table if I was able to work like I did back then. I dream of a perfect life where I can be there for my son every step of the way and still be able to bring in an income. You can tend to feel a bit disabled without the ability to assist financially. No matter how difficult this parenting is, combined with being a house wife. Doing all the things it takes to be good at it: Cooking three meals a day, every day, cleaning, and taking care of all the responsibilities of the home and also living somewhat like a single parent, with my husband being gone for work for so many hours. Still I don't feel it's enough, I desperately want to earn, I feel I should.
I have heard so many mothers say that they work from home and make a good living of it. I've tried so many of these work from home jobs that turned out to be scams. Lost money and patience trying to find something that I can do, something to help me help us. I worry about depression and though I don't think I've been there, I fight the thought of getting to that point. Patience is really a virtue when dealing with a young child, trying to get back in shape, losing confidence, becoming insecure and trying to get back some sort of independence.
I'm still trying to find a plan for a stay-at-home working mom. I know it's out there. Maybe one of you can help me find it, help us find it. I'm hoping that this thread will touch those other moms, struggling with the same problem and hopefully I will get answers for us all. Help for myself and those other moms looking for answers about, how to find a job that can allow us to be stay at home moms and really bring in an income. If you know of something fitting please feel free to let us know. I'm sure we would all appreciate it.