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Shower Present Etiquette?

post #1 of 5
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So, I registered at Amazon.com and a diaper store (with a mainly online presence).  My shower is not for 2 more weeks, but I have already had some things delivered to my home.  Do I open the packages at the shower, or...?  I had such a small bridal shower, and it was so long ago (15 years!) that I can't remember.

 

It seems like it might be awkward not to open them at the shower-- people who attend but whose presents were already opened might feel... conspicuous, somehow?  Or like they missed seeing my reaction?  OTOH, if I wait, people who sent presents might be left wondering when their thank you notes are coming...

 

Any thoughts? 

post #2 of 5

I registered at amazon.com too.  I found packages started arriving before I had my shower.  (It was an out of town shower right before Christmas, as most of my family is in Chicago and it was pretty much my last chance to travel.)   I chose not to open them and not to peek at the registry since it will tell you who sent what - just wanted to be surprised :) .  At the shower I received cards from people telling me what to expect in the mail or with a picture of the gift.  My situation might be different because everyone sent the gifts to my house because they knew I was flying.  Maybe ask the host of the shower what they think the expectations will be?

 

I did all the thank you notes at once.  If the gift givers are invited to the shower, I think it's acceptable that the thank you's don't go out until after the party. 

 

Hope you have fun!


Edited by katiesophie - 1/12/13 at 9:41pm
post #3 of 5

Do they have the option to send it to you or to their own address?  If I had a choice and I chose to send the gift directly to the recipient, I would assume they would open it when they received it.

 

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If the gift givers are invited to the shower, I think it's acceptable that the thank you's don't go out until after the party.

 

And I agree with this. smile.gif

 

Have fun at your shower!

post #4 of 5
Thread Starter 

Okay, that makes sense-- thanks!

post #5 of 5
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Originally Posted by MaybeJ View Post

Do they have the option to send it to you or to their own address?  If I had a choice and I chose to send the gift directly to the recipient, I would assume they would open it when they received it.

 

 

And I agree with this. smile.gif

 

Have fun at your shower!

 

I had this happen too. We opened gifts at the shower just of the folks who were there. The things that came via the post from people who are far away we opened whenever they arrived and now I'm slogging through the thank you notes! I've also emailed people who sent things via the post to say their gift arrived so they don't have to worry about it as my thank you notes might take a few weeks.

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