Hi everyone, I could use some advice. Please bear w/ me as I set up some background and bless you for getting through all of this! :-P
My mother in law has 2 twin grandboys. This baby will be grandbaby #3. She called us up last night and offered to buy us an entire nursery room set b/c that is what she did for each of the twin grandboys - so she bought 2 entire nursery room sets.
Now, we don't plan on co-sleeping so we do intend on having a crib and a nursery-type room; however, we weren't planning on going all bonanza on a nursery. We already have a lot of hand-me-down furniture for a nursery and are only lacking a changing table. Instead we want to go bigger on a kids bedroom when the kid is old enough to better appreciate his "room" and his "space" (we don't 'know that its a boy, just using a pronoun). In our eyes a fancy nursery is more for the parents - the baby could care less.
We are super appreciative of her offer to help and definitely expressed that to her but we would rather direct her help to other items (e.g., a nice jogging stroller, an excellent car set, a cool kids room bedroom set in a few years, etc ...). She seemed somewhat amenable to directing her help to other avenues but I can tell her heart isn't in it. SHE wants to buy the nursery room furniture b/c it would make HER feel good.
I understand that she is the grandmother and its important to make her feel involved. And we really do appreciate and welcome her help and support. We just don't want her support in this arena - its unnecessary. How would you handle this situation? Are we being too rigid and should we just let her buy it for us to make her feel good/happy? It pains me to see that money spent on something we don't really need/want when it could be so much more useful in other ways.
Thanks for your insight!