I'm looking for people's experiences with night weaning . . . or moving kids out of the family bed before they're totally ready . . . or just being patient and waiting . . .
Our story is this . . . We've been co-sleeping and BF-ing for 2 and a half years and for the most part, it's been great. The only times my DS nurses now is at night to go to sleep, when he wakes up in the night (which varies greatly in frequency one night to the next - it could be anywhere from 2 wakings to 6 or more), when he wakes up in the morning, and on weekends for naptime.
Anyway, as he gets bigger and my milk supply goes down, co-sleeping and nursing all night has become less comfortable for me and for my husband. We'd like to get our bed back and I'm starting to feel a bit tired and cranky. Another issue is that DS will not go to sleep for my DH at all, and my DH is not at all patient at night time. I am a lawyer and am scheduled to be in trial for 2-3 weeks in April (which will mean me being at work until midnight many nights). If the case does not settle before trial, I really don't know how they will manage. I am generally never away at bedtime.
I had always thought DS would wean and move out of bed on his own when he was ready but I am starting to contemplate a gradual transition....I've thought of a number of possibilities . . .
- getting another bed in our room, nursing him to sleep in that bed and then moving myself into the big bed with my husband, in the hopes maybe DS would not wake up as much if he wasn't right next to me
- doing the same thing as above, but in a bed in another room
- "night weaning" but i would have no idea how to go about that and don't think i'd have the heart not to BF if he was crying for it.
Do others have good experiences with the above? Bad experiences? Other options?