Originally Posted by amanda bee
SuzieSmiles: I am bummed. I cannot find a midwife to take me on as a client here (for only 3 months)...i will have to wait for midwifery care in the USA.the OBGYN i have (the only one available through the university) is very traditional. I managed to stave off my 1st u/s until 11 weeks (when he wants me to get a NT) but i am worried about the stress of the "markers" ( i don't want to open the door to living test to test either BUT i feel like i need some sort of reassurance)....it feels like such a double edge sword. if i was 10 years younger and not deemed high risk i would refuse all testing except for maybe the anatomy....
what are other mama's opting to do? If you get a nuchal scan & have high markers do you think will you get an amnio or do CVS?
has anyone done these tests before?
has anyone had the NT (with high markers) and not opted to do further testing?
i'd love to hear about your experiences.
Hi amanda bee - bummer that you weren't able to get a midwife to assist you for the 3 months you'll be up there... Do you have someone in mind for when you move? If so, you might be able to get some assistance/guidance by phone or email until you are able to get together in person...
I've decided to go with the 8 week ultrasound (more for viability than anything else - due to my experience last pregnancy - had an 8 week u/s and growth had stopped a 7.3 weeks, missed miscarriage, etc... was an awful experience and I'd really like to make this 8 week milestone a happy one with that little heartbeat). I'm still thinking of also doing the 18 or 20 week anatomy scan... And, I know that I've already voiced my opinions on testing, etc... but just wanted to reiterate that some of those tests be dangerous and can potentially cause a miscarriage to an otherwise perfectly healthy baby, this fact scares the heck out of me which is the main reason I've opted not to have them done . Other reason is the stress of living test to test as I previously discussed. Take some time and do some research (this is what I did from all different sources - mainstream to alternative sites, forums, blogs, etc.), see what rings true with you, pray, meditate, etc... about it and you'll know what is the right choice for you and your little one.
I know it's really helpful to hear what other mamas are planning or have done in the past, please chime in ladies:) Love to hear from you!
serena76 - sorry for your loss in October, I had one in August... And, I feel ya for sure about pregnancy being hard - I had always believed it was the most natural thing in the world and I'd have that lovely pregnancy glow and just blow sunshine... all of the time (maybe it is like this when you're younger, who knows)! I had lots of bloating in the beginning, have been really tired it seems since ovulation, no sex drive, some headaches, backaches and these food aversions are so frustrating! I hardly want to eat at all lately and it seems that what I do want are things that are not healthy, really craving sweets too, weird. But, the bright side is that I've heard that the 2nd trimester is a lot better, so I'm really looking forward to that. I have to tell myself whenever I feel crappy that I have a little life growing inside me and it makes me smile, I rub my little bump and know it will all be worth it in the end:) Hope it gets better for all of us soon.