0-1 was natural, fairly easy, & wonderful for me-- I had always seemed to be the "mama" in my groups of friends/ work etc
1-2 was super, not as easy, but ds1 loved, loved, loved ds2 from the word go (he was just 5 att)
2-3 was harder, more challenging, but more blessings came from working it out together (ds1 was 7 & ds2 was just 2 att)
... now we are adding #4 after years of infertility issues & losses (ds1 will be 20!, ds2 15, & dd 12 at due date-- talk about a change!)
I am sure it will be similar for any caring parents-- although adding a child can be a challenge, it helps the family grow when challenges
are worked out in positive ways for everyone.
One thing to remember is reconsider any BIG changes right as a new baby comes (ie new sleeping or potty or school arrangements); either
start way early or take the pressure off of you & your dc & dh by delaying a bit. I tried to begin (like you said Splath) kindy hsing when ds2
was born in sept & ds1 was just 5; wow, that was a lot of pressure & hard feelings for us all, 'til we just learned day by day, as we always
had (I guess we unschooled & ignored the books for a few months), and that was so much more nurturing for us at that time. We did pick
it back up by 2nd semester & finished on time, but we needed a break from my (too-high-for-us at that time) expectations. This may not be
the case for everyone, but, from experience, I'm just hoping you'll be forgiving & loving of yourself if you find unexpected changes in the
gameplan (att, I was kinda too hard on myself).