So, I just got a phone call from my sister saying, "surprise," she booked a flight and will be here the day before my due date. I have very mixed feelings about this. It was never discussed. We talked about her coming for a visit but not when. I always hinted (not very well I guess) that a visit in March would be great.
My mom will already be here. This was discussed and agreed upon. My mom is calming and laid back. She will be a welcomed presence postpartum and before if LO is late.
I love my sister and we get along pretty well. She is very knowledgeable about nutrition and herbs, she is super creative and musical. She has been a great resource and support throughout my pregnancy. I appreciate her and her talents. But, she has a tendency to be slightly self-centered and is very outspoken. She has already said half jokingly "it's not about you, it's about me and my niece or nephew." I am pretty easy going and soft spoken, so I need to have a strong idea of what I want and have a plan for handling her suggestions and input.
I know that I do not want her in the delivery room and I am apprehensive about what she expects and how she will interfere in our early bonding time.
I understand that she is extremely excited and I don't want to hurt her feelings. This is the first niece/nephew for our siblings. But I don't want it to cause any unneeded stress for my labor, DH, or our first days with our baby.
Any suggestions on how to talk with her about it, set boundaries? Am I being too sensitive or selfish?