How do you repair your relationship after a bad day of parenting? - Page 2

[MrsGregory]

Ya'know, I'm not on the earth to play;  I do my best to keep my house clean, my family well fed, my child "enriched" and my lipstick fresh, however, despite my high standards for myself and my friends, I don't want people in my life that are going to constantly pretend it's easy.  Because it ain't.  If your IRL circle can't trade tips on how to handle the not-so-fabulous days, and there are many of them, may I sweetly suggest you shop for some new friends?  Personally, I am there to support my friends, so if you had the worst day ever, I want to hear it.  Let's talk it out, let's get some suggestions out there, let's move on and feel better.  You deserve support in "real life" too. 
 

[zoeygurl]

Hi ladies,
I hope you don't mind me joining in, I'm new to this site. I don't have any friends that are mothers and I'm struggling a little bit with my 3 year old, I've recently been made redundant from my job and I'm a little bit stressed out and I feel like my son is reacting to this by acting up at times. And I feel so bad about it all, my other half is great, but I don't get to have a lot of adult conversation (the mums at the nursery are twice my age, I'm 23 and they aren't very accepting of me) so I feel quite alone, and need to try and do more fun things with my boy, we go on lots of walks because we live in the country side but I feel like I should try new things and try to meet people, but since I've lost my job I've lost a lot of confidence I'm sorry for the essay but any advice would be greatly received! Thank you x

[Xavismom]

This makes me think of something a Mama friend of mine said once. She says she imagines her kids have a 'love tank', and that when their tank is running 'low', thats when she notices that they are acting out, are out of sorts, or that she doesnt quite feel connected to them. So she spends time with them, doing things that make them feel loved and attached, to fill their 'tanks' back up.

This actually makes perfect sense to me, and I noticed it with my son. For my DS, nursing, or sitting and spending time playing trains with him is a sure fire way to fill up his love tank, and it helps me feel like we are balanced and in tune with each other.