Everytime they are together lately my four ye old gets scratched during disagreements. Last time it was about a friend they mutually know. My dd said "this friend is my friend- you dont know her" of course causing hurt feelings in 3 yr old and escalating very quickly to a scratch. I figured the cousin would eventually grow out of it and wasn't too concerned until one scratch was quite severe and appears to be scarring.
Working with my sister to come up with solutions. Thinking about takijg away cartoon privileges and heaping concern on my hurt kid in the moment. She is also concerned that her daughters feelings of hurt are validated after we deal with physical violence.
Thanks in advance