We planned a UC with DD and I was on here a lot. I did all my own prenatals. After ten hours of awful back labor, DH was no longer supportive and we transferred to the hospital for an epidural. I was completely ignored, and the doctor just did whatever they wanted, against my wishes. DH ended up going home shortly after DD was born because he caught a bad cold while there (probaby from the nurse with the runny, sneezy, coughiness). He didn't show up until around 1 the following day when his parents decided to visit. He doesn't understand what was so bad about DD's birth, other than the outrageous bills that wiped out our savings account completely.
It took a while getting PG with #2. We planned again to UP/UC this time, but at 15weeks I got a weird rash that our GP diagnosed as Pitiraisis Rosea (sp?), and it really scared DH, as the outcome was thought to be pretty bad for baby if it survived. We found a midwife who seems to be very non-invasive, and even though she has repeatedly assured us that since I'm still pregnant and the baby is moving around a lot, that the baby probably wasn't affected. If it was affected, she has assured us that it wont cause problems at birth, only problems with nursing, movement, and would require physical therapy to help walk, etc... totally different than the GP's description....
At the first appointment at 17 weeks, the MW was sure my dates were off and measured my fundus. She measured 20 cm, but noted that it was above my belly button, and should have been AT at 20 weeks. I was charting, and know when I ovulated, so she said there might be twins.
At 23 weeks, she measured my fundus and measured only 24cm. Both DH and I had measured that morning, he got 28, and I got 29. When I told her that we were getting atleast 28 and I had been growing at about 2cm/week, she just said, "oh, everyone measures a little different." Then proceeded to tell me I might have a little extra fluid, which is common in twins, but she could only feel one baby, and only heard one HB. She could only find the HB right where the baby was kicking, and when I commented on that, she just said she knew, with no explanation.
DH and I talked about it on the way home, and he's perfectly happy with her explanation with the measurement difference. We've been measuring weekly, so I know it wasn't just an anomoly. DH did note that she measured a little different than we do. She measured more like just the visible portion that sticks out, and pulled the tape really tight. When DH and I measure we go from the top edge of my pubic bone, to the top of where we can FEEL my uterus, and we lay the tape across... it doesn't depress my stomach when we do it.
This week, DH measured like the midwife did and the smallest he got was 26, measuring like normal, I get 30. At 24 Weeks, I'm measuring 30.
If you were UCing, would this concern you? What would you do in my position? Would you switch back to UC? DH is perfectly happy with the midwife, and doesn't understand why I want to UC if nothing is wrong. I want to try to convince him to UC, but not if I'm being crazy about this...