Thanks for all your insight and suggestions. I did meet with my OB today and have started discussing the pros and cons of a scheduled c-section with him. He is a pro vbac type of doc who is taking me to task on my reasoning for considering one, which I appreciate. But ultimately, I have read a lot about it as well as what to expect recovery-wise and think it might be a better choice for me. I'll see. In any case I will also look in to Penny Simkin because I might jinx myself by not preparing.
Because my labor was bad enough that I have been very hesitant to even get pregnant again since then, and this time it was not a planned pregnancy (on my part, anyways), I see the reward in potentially in getting therapy for it too.