My daughter is 6 and in K. She is really struggling. She has been to the principal, guidance counselor, and "resource" person more times in the last 4 months than I have ever heard of. However, I wouldn't even know this if it weren't for the fact that I have two older daughters in school. The school has only contacted me once to explain why she was taken out of the classroom. The rest of the time my 8th or 6th grade daughter's hear it from the guidance councelor at their middle school. This is despite the fact that I requested that her teacher tell me when she gets into trouble because I can't help with problems I don't know about. She has blatantly refused to do this.
They want to test her for ADD/ADHD Autism, personality disorders. They constantly segregate her by making her eat lunch alone or withholding her from recess. They wanted to put her in speech and reading special ed and I refused. Mainly because she reads fine to me at home and her speech is FINE for a 6 year old. They seem to be bewildered by my refusal for the special help. I explained that I was not interested in having my daughter labled.
I told my husband of the latest problem at school (She spent most of a day with the "resource" guy coloring pictures and talking about what makes her angry) and my husband says, "That's it. She's not going to school anymore. We can't keep doing this."
To which I replied, "She HAS to go to school. It's the law."
He said, "No. We'll homeschool her."
"Um, what?" I said, "I don't know anything about homeschooling!" And we ended our conversation.
I was pretty anti-homeschooling at that initial conversaiton. No offence, but when I think of homeschool families I think of odd families with super religious parents who don't want their children exposed to the real world. But he got me thinking and doing some research and I realize that there are a ton of reasons for homeschooling your children and almost everyone is based on the idea that the parent feels it will be best for the child.
So I'm really starting to get the idea that this would be best for my 6 year old. I knew that all day, every day K would be too much for her and it has been. I completely lost my daughter. My once bright, happy, loving daughter has been replaced by a dull, tired, angry and crabby person who none of us want to be around. Sometimes she comes home from school and sleeps through supper. She gets about 45 minutes of homework a night that i do not have the inclination to do because it is pointless and useless. She is given 21 "books" to "read" every night. She's had the same ones since the beginning of the school year and they add a new one every few weeks. So she is not so much "reading" these books as reciting them. Worthless. So I get crap about not doing this worthless activity. This has made her completely lose interest in reading or listening to real books.
Mostly, I miss my daughter and my heart breaks at how she's being treated at school. She DOES have some issues. Mostly she's a little OCD and she has a VERY hard time transitioning. She can't transition to a new activity without about 20 minutes warning. She has to line her crayons up in a certain way and have everything just so. Her teacher informed me with 20 kids in her class, she simply can not allow this. My daughter's PreK teacher allowed her to work at her own pace and transition when she was ready and she never had the acting out problems that the K teacher has. But there were only 9 in that class.
I know absolutely nothing about homeschooling. I work 12 hours a week outside of the home,and I run two websites inside he home. I expect my home income to exceed my work income in about 6 months. At that point I could probably quit my outside job (although I'm not sure I would want to/need to?) Either way I should be able to homeschool while working 12 hours a week, right? I have a 14 yo dd, 12 yo dd, 6 yo dd and 3 yo ds. I would probably homeschool both the younger two. The older two are doing well in school, they are in the talented and gifted program, band, chorus and all sports and have never had any problems.
I was thinking of homeschooling the youngest two. My 6 yo takes dance on monday nights, is an AWANA sparky on Wedneday nights and plays soccer and T-Ball when it's warm out, oh and she goes to sunday school, so she would have lots of interaction with other kids. I think I would have my 3 yo go to preschool 3 days a week half days next year anyway, and then still homeschool him. Then I would probably keep him out of kindergarten and re-evaluate in 1st.
I'm a little nervous about telling the school. I have friends on the school board and I coach 6th grade volleyball, so I'm always at the school. I live in a very small town (pop 1080) so I know that we will be the talk of the town if I do this.
I just don't know how I can continue sending her to school. Just this morning we spent 30 minutes listening to her cry. She asked me this morning when she could go to a new school and I said that maybe mommy would teach her at home. Her face lit up. Then she asked about her best friend, "Can Mya go to school at our house too?" "No," I said, "But she can come play." "OKAY!" She was so excited.
I really feel this is what is right, but I'm terrified to take the plunge. What if I can't teach her? What if she doesn't listen? How much of a struggle will it be at first? How do I know what to teach?
Thanks for reading this novella of a post! Any help, advice, suggestions are welcome. Heck, I'm begging for help and suggestions!