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post #21 of 31

You've gotten some great suggestions here. 


If it is her weight you are worried about then, until you can find some way for her to willingly incorporate exercise into her day, you could just get her to cut down on the amount of food she eats, or choose lower calorie foods. You don't have to exercise to lose weight, but it sure makes it easier. Plus exercise is so good for overall health and mental well-being. 

post #22 of 31

There is this 7 minute exercise that you can google. It is a combination of things like jumping jacks, wall sits, crunches, steps, etc. each for only 30 seconds with 10 second rest in between.  My friend had it on her phone and one day when her and other mom's and kids were over (we homeschool) we decided to do it.  Then another friend had it on her phone  and we ended up doing it outside at a park, while we waited for the kids to finish their  parkour class.  The other day I looked it up on line, put some music on, and did it in my living room. my 10 year old son came over and joined in.  I don't think it would be a lot of fun to do alone.  But it is only 7 minutes and  I found doing it with my friends and then my son quite fun, as we could groan and laugh at ourselves. Perhaps you could check something like that out and do it at home. Maybe she would eventually join in.

post #23 of 31

I have one child who does not like to exercise-- prefers to paint/draw/read. I sign both my kids up for tennis class seasonally. It's an informal class with lots of beginners and intermediates. They just have fun trying to hit balls and rotate around the court. None of them is that great of a player so no one feels clumsy or singled out. There are many time slots.


My other thought was to join a hiking club for the whole family. 

post #24 of 31

My biggest piece of advice would be to stop talking about exercise...


Just get out and do stuff with her. Plan hikes, take a dance class together, go swimming, go on bike rides, etc...try to get out and enjoy nature, and quit focusing on the fact that she is "a bit overweight" (because believe me, she knows she is). Just go have fun with her.

post #25 of 31

I never liked team sports.  I liked things like cheerleading because I could learn a routine, but anything that required thinking on my feet was a NO.  My parents eventually started swapping off walking with me at night.  It was great because they actually TALKED to me as well and I talked to them.  HIGHLY recommend it.  From there, I also started running on my own, which I also enjoyed.


I don't really value team sports a whole lot.  I think they're great for kids who enjoy them, but I also know the uglier side.  There are lots of other chances for kids to learn to be part of a team.  It's not just sports.

post #26 of 31

I agree with other posters who've said do something together.  My older dd hated exercise and when she was 11 was definitely overweight.  Her doc was concerned not b/c of her weight but b/c she didn't exercise at all.  I've posted about this before on these boards somewhere, so I'll keep it sort of brief.  My dd was starting middle school, and we knew she'd have to run the mile in MS on a regular basis.  So I suggested we go to a track a few weeks before MS started and start practicing.  I knew she wouldn't want to struggle and be the slowest, or worse, not be able to do it.  Our first time at the track she couldn't run half a lap (1/8 of a mile).  We did it together, and she was so sad that she couldn't go far at all, and mad about running in general.  But we kept it up, and over time she could do a mile albeit very slowly.  She hated it.  Hated running.  But I told her we needed to stick with it b/c it was good for both of us and b/c she had to do the mile at school every so often.  Then over time we (mainly me pushing this, somewhat nicely but consistently) started adding distance.  Not much, but we slowly worked up to 2 miles over the course of a year.  Skip to three years later.  She and I run together 3-4 times a week, we've done some 5k's and we are training for a 10k.  This was not an easy road, and she quit exercise many many times, sometimes for months at a time, just refusing to do anything.  But she always came back around b/c she found she liked how exercise made her feel. I doubt if I hadn't done it with her from the beginning she would have stuck with it (or done any other type of exercise) b/c honestly I had to be the motivator until last spring.  But it's been great for the two of us, both health wise and conversation wise.  We talk a lot during our runs which is really nice especially since she just started HS this year.  Oh, one reason we kept with running (really jogging b/c we aren't fast) is you get so much for so little time spent.  A 20 min bike ride is nice but doesn't really work you out very much.  But 20 min of running is a pretty good workout. So I kept telling my dd how it didn't take much time to take care of your body, and running was probably the best way to do it in the shortest time possible.  She liked that aspect of it, even though she didn't like the running part.  Plus it fit well into our schedule b/c like your dd, my girls get home kind of late, about 4:30-4:40pm from school.  

post #27 of 31

Weight gain can come from "Healthy" grains too, count up her carbs one day, if it's over 150g offering more protein and fat and less starchy snacks could do some good. Get moving alongside her or have her go with a friend, and do it as play if possible.

post #28 of 31

My advice would be to educate yourself about insulin resistance, which is the #1 cause of obesity. What's good food for a non-insulin resistant person is far from being good food for someone whose cells are resistant to the action of insulin hormone.


This is my website where I provide some pretty detailed free information on the topic http://www.healthfromscratch.com/insulin-resistance.html


Everything in orange color is clickable and is linked to studies and articles on insulin resistance from Harvard, Stanford, among others.

post #29 of 31

Do you have a dog? Or could you get (or even borrow) a dog? My DD got in the habit of walking when she was responsible for a dog. Became a regular, twice a day, 20 minutes each thing.

post #30 of 31

another mom of a 12 year old girl here....


So I was totally against all kinds of video games, until we went to a friend's house and played a dancing game on their Wii. It was SO MUCH FUN!! we played it for hours (adults AND kids) and the kids were arguing over who got to go next. by the end, all of us were sweaty and breathing hard. what a great workout! i'm very tempted to get one for our house just for the dancing games. they are amazing and really fun.


I agree that making it a family thing is a good idea.

post #31 of 31
Originally Posted by mamarhu View Post

Do you have a dog? Or could you get (or even borrow) a dog? My DD got in the habit of walking when she was responsible for a dog. Became a regular, twice a day, 20 minutes each thing.

Walking our big lab has been awesome for our dd -- emotionally and psychologically as well as physically. This was her first means of getting out and roaming the neighborhood on her own when she started feeling the need for more independence a few years ago. And with the dog, we feel safe letting her wear her headphones and listen to music or books, whereas we don't let her do that when she walks on her own, because of the need for her to stay alert.

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