At any rate, I found my doula back when I was 17 weeks preg. I'm nearly 30 weeks now. We have emailed back and forth and she was always very positive and supportive through the cerclage placement and all the drama we've been through... I also should mention that she just had a baby, like 3weeks ago. All along she has been saying that by march she would be ready to work births again... And the plan was that if I went super early, like before march. That she would send me one of her back ups! Well she came over today so talk abt my birth plan (should I go term) and help me talk through a tentative plan of what would be important to remember and "plan" for should baby come early. We also talked abt hospital policy and what not... I got the info for the placental encapsulation person...etc.
Well after all this (she was here for like almost 2 hrs) she says so since my baby is so small I'm not going to be able to attend your birth unless you make it to ur due date or go over due! WHAT!?!?!! ME? OVERDUE? I've been fighting preterm labor since 18/20 weeks. They are taking the cerclage out at 36 weeks (which will be march 4th or there around...) she has know this forever and she's just now telling me this! She said all along she would be ready in march. I asked her why she just went through all this planning with me if that was the case... Hr response? "Well most first time moms go past their due date so we should be good."
WHAT? Idk whether its the new baby and lack of sleep effecting her mind or what but IM NOT "MOST" first time moms! Ugh.
So idk what to do now... My DH has been reading and researching a lot abt labor and delivery and soothing techniques and what not and he thinks we can do it and don't need her... And DH and I do make a really good team with all else in life... But we've never had a baby before... Ugh.
So if you've made it this far... Lol
What would you all do in this case? Those that have had doulas was it essential? or just a perk? I don't want to look for another doula... I hate tht money is an issue but it is... and she works with people and was giving us an amazing deal... and none of the others I called before offered that...
(She will still come over after the baby is born if I need LC support with breast feeding)