Just weaned my kids and bawling like crazy

[Lazurii]

After a few weeks of working on it I finally weaned my two kiddos tonight, 5 and almost 3.  I cannot believe how sad I am!  I just really need some hugs right now to let me know I'm not some crazy lady for feeling this way.  I was ready to change this part of our relationships but I didn't know it would hurt so bad.

[pek64]

It is a duel edged sword. On one hand, you know the benefits, on the other.... it is sad. Be kind to yourself. It passes. Give yourself a hug from me tonight.

[mamatoabirdie]

that's really tough, mama.  what an incredible job you have done for your kiddos!  you have ushered them, gently, into a new era and season of their lives.  they are more secure and independent thanks to your efforts.  it's totally okay for you to grieve!  change is tough and hard and scary sometimes.  don't forget to pay yourself on the back for all of your hard work, though.

[phathui5]

You're not crazy to have feelings about it. Being ready to wean doesn't mean that you won't be sad about that phase of your life being over.

[rubidoux]

Aww, man.  I'm sorry (and maybe congratulations, too).  I know that's hard.  When I weaned my first at 3 1/2 I was pretty heartbroken and also worried about how it was going to affect our relationship.  It turned out great of course.  Lots of cuddling and back rubbing.  Hugs to you!

[Lazurii]

Thanks, ladies.  I'm feeling a lot more centered this morning.  And it was amazing how well my daughter slept last night, so that certainly helped.  Thank you for your support.

[Pookietooth]

I would wonder why you chose to wean both at once when they are not the same age?

[Lazurii]

Because I guess it's not a competition.  Yeah, my son nursed longer, but my daughter nursed nights longer, three years versus his 20 months.  Fairness isn't always about having the same things.

[Springshowers]

Lazurii,


I have wondered the same thing. My kids are twenty months apart and nursing at three years and seventeen months. It would be almost impossible to stop feeding just my daughter. I ended up night weaning both at the same time because I was waking up so much I was non functional in the day. That said I still feed him some nights. My three year old immediately went from waking at least there times a might to sleeping all night!

[EVEP]

I felt similar. DD self-weaned at 21m and I miss it. She stopped way to quick. It was too easy. :(

[EVEP]

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