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[tillymonster]

Ooops. Double post!

[tillymonster]

CookAMH— It's really hard being overweight ugh. I tried so freaking hard to lose and have a feeling I'm one of those mamas who can't lose weight while breastfeeding. *sigh* But one plus... I wont be bothered on how many months I am etc. etc. for a looooong time, right? I am holding my weight pretty well so it'll be nice not to be an "obvious" pregnant. I hope to not gain much if any at all (already 230# at 5'5" so yeah... I don't need to gain anything else!), we will see.

nettlesoup— Yay! Primal! If you don't mind, share with me what you are eating on an average day. I'd love to compare notes! ;)

I should add myself to the roster too huh?

[splath]

I just asked dh when he wants to announce my pregnancy and he said 16 weeks. LoL I will be enormous by then. I don't think that will work...

[nettlesoup]

Tillymonster; of course! I don't really have breakfast as I'm never really hungry in the mornings, so I have a glass of kefir. For lunch I'll usually have leftovers like yesterday's roast with veg or shepherd's pie, and for dinner I'll have some form of roast, or salmon with veg, or maybe a curry. For snacks I'll eat raisins, cheese or fruit and I drink water, although this baby seems to want fruit juice all the time! I also have a glass of kefir in the evening as well to control my morning sickness.

I admit I did have a doner kebab and chips in brown sauce for dinner tonight. I felt a bit blah afterwards, but it was an emergency take away because the sausages we were going to have didn't thaw in time. I also have been cheating a little due to cravings, but so far just ice cream and rice pudding, so it could be worse.
 

[tillymonster]

That sounds like you are doing great. I am barely 4 weeks, so I haven't noticed any food aversions yet. I was 100% eating a SAD last pregnancy and felt like crap most of it, though the morning sickness was mild. Mostly body aches, insomnia and major fatigue. I'm hoping clean eating and a good amount of walking/light weight training will help. I have added in some grains that I want out, but it's hard to throw away corn tortillas or oatmeal when they don't seem to upset my system much. I still really feel like dairy, white rice and potatoes should be the ONLY kind of non-primal foods to stick to.

Anyone doing Kombucha? I know it's pretty controversial during pregnancy. However-- I've been drinking it pretty regularly for a few months now (still nursing my DD who is 3), and just started making my own. I can't imagine not getting to have that BOOST in the late afternoons where I get really tired (now was this my thyroid or the pregnancy I didn't realize was happening!?!) and the batch I made tasted great. I want to make kefir too-- that would be GREAT in the mornings with some fruit blended up. Yum!

[letniaLynne]

Hi ladies,
I'm beat! 9 wks today!!! My midwife moved my edd about 4 days earlier than I had calculated due to my short cycles. The last 3+ weeks I have been a lump, the kids have been taken care of by my mom and DF . They are doing well luckily I am counting the days till 13+ weeks!!! I am suppose to be getting my house on the market since we are moving to just outside of Boston in June no matter if the house is sold or not. We decided we were going to move in june right before we found out we were pregnant . Which actually was great since it might have been harder to make the decision knowing I will be very pregnant! Also the house we are moving into is not finished yet!!! I'm trying not to stress about it yet but after the first tri is over I plan to get my life back in order and both of these houses off my plate

[nettlesoup]

Tillymonster; I ate a SAD diet with my last pregnancy too, and it was far worse for me! morning sickness this time is nothing compared to the last time! Also, drinking kefir has made morning sickness half as bad for me. If I don't drink it for a day or two, my morning sickness is twice as bad until I drink some again. Other people have reported the same thing.
 

[tillymonster]

Hi ladies, I think I will be bowing out of the group-- sadly, the two pregnancy tests I took from home were false positives. I took an HCG blood test yesterday and was told I was not pregnant. I really don't know what to think. I'm still having some massive low back pain and still cramping. Not period or any spotting however. I'm very sad. I've never tested positive on a HPT and not been pregnant. Anyone else experience this? I guess only time will tell...

[Bromache]

Originally Posted by tillymonster 

Hi ladies, I think I will be bowing out of the group-- sadly, the two pregnancy tests I took from home were false positives. I took an HCG blood test yesterday and was told I was not pregnant. I really don't know what to think. I'm still having some massive low back pain and still cramping. Not period or any spotting however. I'm very sad. I've never tested positive on a HPT and not been pregnant. Anyone else experience this? I guess only time will tell...

Awwww.  I'm so sorry to hear that. 

I've never experienced it before, except very, very faint positives and then getting my period a few days later. I would call those chemical pregnancies. But never a strong positive and no period, and then no baby. So sorry about your loss (because the loss is real, even if the positive wasn't, IMO).

[nettlesoup]

Och, I'm really sorry to hear that Tillymonster
 

[Bromache]

Hi guys. Having a not-so-awesome week this week. I had a meeting with my oldest son's teacher and principal On Monday, and it seems they have some concerns about him. They couldn't really go into too many details, since they want us (DH and I) to fill out an evaluation about his strengths and difficulties without influencing our answers with their own on the same tool, but it has me worried. I just don't get why I haven't been told there were problems before now? And then, today, my younger son had his first speech therapy appointment here (we moved last summer and have been waiting since then), and I also got bad news. Despite the great improvements WE have seen in him, she thinks he needs work before he's ready for real one-on-one therapy. Ugh. I'm so disappointed. He's supposed to start school this fall, but he really needs more therapy before then. First he'll have to go do some sort of training to get him used to, and willing to, imitate sounds.... It never ends.

Definitely feeling like I have my hands pretty full and not sure about how three is going to go right now... 

It doesn't help that I'm feeling not so good. My nausea's getting worse this week. I'm 5w4d, so this scares me. I know where I'm headed! I just hope I can make it to my first appointment before it gets too bad. In the past, I've had to use Diclectin to get through the days without throwing up. I'd like to have a prescription for that in my hand right now, just in case! But, I have to wait another two weeks or so before the clinic even calls me back. (I filled in their intake form a week ago, and it said to expect a three week wait.) Then who knows when I'll get in?

Ugh. Sorry. As I said, a not-so-great week.

[aidenn]

I have been doing really well, trying not to gain weight until yesterday. The nausea became too much and I came to the realization that I can be a healthy weight or I can vomit. So, I have been choosing to eat extra. I know I am going to get chastised by WIC and to be honest, I was enjoying my weight stabilization: 175 lbs on a 5'6" frame! I hope I made the right choice....I gained so much with each pregnancy (50 lbs) and while I do go on to lose it, I wanted to stay under 200 lbs at delivery. :/

I am being cheered up by our support and commiseration! I am keeping our collective eyes on the second trimester prize of good health and gender reveals and name debates!!!

[SuzieSmiles]

Hi Ladies! I'm about 6 1/2 weeks and almost nothing sounds good to eat, ugh! I was super hungry it seems from just past ovulation up until last week... Now, my sense of smell is so intense! When I make a salad, I'm super picky about every little piece of green that goes in it, never used to be that way... I have to force myself to eat and after a few bites I feel full. DH wants me to eat and I tell him I'm trying, ugh!! When I get an occasional craving for something, he jumps on it and gives it to me (he's so sweet)...

Last night, I had a sudden craving for cheese enchiladas (I know not the healthiest, right), so bam, there they were in front of me and I was surprised that I ate about half of them... I wish that the few cravings I do have were for something healthier as I generally try to eat a very healthy diet (organic, non GMO, no MSg, no artificial sweeteners, no processed foods, no refined sugars/starches, etc...). I just feel that when I actually want to eat something (even if it's not ideal), I should go ahead and eat it because nothing else sounds good. Anyone else going through the guilt of eating naughty foods while pregnant (personally, I hate that I'm not being a better mommy)?

We were starting to transition to a more paleo diet before I got pregnant, but that has pretty much gone out the window! Hope this weird phase passes soon... It sounds like the 2nd trimester will be better from what some of you have said, so looking forward to that!!

So, we haven't told anyone that I'm pregnant yet... I told my Mom at 5 weeks last pregnancy (that I lost at 7.5 weeks) and I don't want to upset her again (this will be her first grandchild!)... Wondering if there is some magic week that it's supposed to be 'safe' enough to go ahead and tell people...? My Mom & I are really close, so there is no way I can wait until the 2nd trimester... anyone have advice on this? I'm planning to do an u/s at either 8 or 10 weeks, maybe I should try to wait until after that to tell her...? 

[dakipode]

SuzieSmiles: how nice that your DH is so attentive. I feel similar: unless I really want something specific, I don't want to eat so I feel like I should eat whatever comes to mind, which is how I ended up having McDonalds for dinner a couple of days ago. The other day I had to take care of my own craving for tapioca pudding though, DH had friends over so I drove to the store and was immediately disappointed by their selection. Really wanted Kozy Shack pudding but all they had was some soy based, beet-juice sweetened, no gluten, no dairy stuff that really tasted funky!

About telling people: I've decided I will only tell close friends who will celebrate with me but also, if the unthinkable happens, who will share my grief and not feel awkward around me. When I told my mom last time (my mother who I love dearly and is super supportive of me in every way) one of the first things she said was: "And if it doesn't work out there's always next time." I was so angry about that but I know she has her own issues around infertility (I was adopted). This time she said it again and I just said: "That's not helpful." She said she didn't want to be too happy for fear of being disappointed and I told her: Carpe diem, you can be happy now and sad later if it doesn't work out.
Anyway, what I'm trying to say is: while you don't want to put your mom through heartache I think it sometimes helps us bond more and if you are close it's nice to be able to share your grief as well as your joy.

[SuzieSmiles]

Thanks dakipode! It's nice to hear that I'm not alone with the "no food sounds good" theme! We'll deal with the guilt of the naughty food choices later!!

I really appreciate your advice about "when to tell" and sharing about your experience with your Mom. My Mom actually asked me not to tell her too early next time... So, a couple of weeks ago (right after I got my BFP), I asked her, so "when I do get pregnant again, when can I tell you." She smiled and said, "I don't know, maybe when you're showing". So, I've been bloated and my jeans are getting tight, I have a teeny tiny bump, does this qualify as showing??  I know she'll be happy and will be there for me no matter what, I'm just a little apprehensive right now... Guess I'll just play it by ear, who knows, maybe I'll blurt it out next time I see her! 

[katalopolis]

We're waiting for either the first ultrasound or 12 weeks, depending on our (read: my) mood about it. A couple of friends who are further along have just announced their pregnancies and it's all I can do to not jump up and down with a, "Me too! Me too!"

[tillymonster]

So get this ladies: I am pregnant and my HCG levels are just fine (today, atleast). I cannot believe the last few days I've had! First-- two positive urine tests from home, then one obviously WRONG HCG blood test from Kaiser Permanente (I'm beginning to despise this health insurance, even if they are pretty organized). The endo was just plain rude and REFUSED to give me another blood test and told me to take it up with my PCP or OB.

I was very sad. I still felt pregnant and just assumed I would start miscarrying. But I didn't. I felt off. The back pain + cramping was making me wonder what was going on. I called the nurse advice hotline and based on my symptoms she asked that I go to an urgent care and get checked out. Glad I did! During the horrible visit there (cold and flu season ugh!) they took another urine test, I was indeed pregnant. They decided it was best to do an ultrasound. I got to see my little bean! It wasn't something I planned, as I don't like getting ultrasounds if I don't have to, especially this early on. But I just knew something was up! My HGC this time around came back at 3,800! I feel like the lab I went to previously to confirm the pregnancy messed up the test or something. How could I go from an HCG of <.5 to 3800!?!?!

Moral of the story: always trust your mama gut right? I'm not out of the dark yet and this pregnancy might not progress, but I'm going to enjoy growing my little bean now and hope for the best!

[nettlesoup]

Yay! I'm glad you're still with us Tillymonster! I was just thinking about you earlier.
 

[MamaMash]

Yay tillymonster!

[CookAMH]

That's fantastic news! I'm so glad to hear it.

I had some good news today. I had been fretting ever since my daughter's birth about the way one of my tears was stitched up and healed. I feared it was making the skin too tight and have really worried about tearing wide open with another birth.  I have a midwife I trust a lot (but she doesn't do HBACs so I can't use her) and she gave a quick peek this morning at it and she thought it was totally fine. That tight area might tear, but it's not a significant spot and she didn't think I needed to worry about it at all. I'm very relieved!