I am Filipino-American, born and raised in the US; my husband is Vietnamese-American, born in Vietnam but raised in the US since he was 4 years old. Despite growing up in areas with large Filipino and Vietnamese populations, we consider ourselves to be fairly removed from our cultures. Both of us can (barely) understand our parents' languages but can't speak them with any kind of fluency, which is of course a huge barrier to connecting culturally. Our strongest connection with our cultures is (almost sadly) exclusively through food but it somehow doesn't feel like enough.
My parents immigrated at a time when it was more in their favor to blend in by assimilating and since we didn't have a lot of family around, my family has lost a lot of culture. My parents always spoke English around me and have never tried to speak Tagalog to my daughter. My hubby's parents live across the country though I have the feeling that if we lived closer, we would probably be exposed to more cultural
We want our daughter to grow up in touch with her roots, both Filipino and Vietnamese, but we're sort of at a loss as for how. For instance, Lunar New Year (Tet) is coming up and while I'm preparing some activities for her to learn about it, I feel like we're celebrating like outsider looking in than being part of the culture itself. Is it worth it at that point, to learn (or to teach) about the culture as an outsider?