First homebirth: Raw Honey because that's what she said she wanted.
Second homebirth: Barnes and Noble Giftcards and a cheese cake.
We aren't real creative or good with that sort of thing but we certainly have been thankful for their services. Especially in a state where the homebirth environment is so bad.
I would say that I probably get a gift from one out of every ten families. I don't ever expect it, and it is always such a surprise to me. I have received everything from hand knit mittens, to necklaces, to coffee shop GC's (Love those!!) to tips. I love to get a card, even at Christmas or a birthday. It is never expected though.
I gave gift cards to my midwives last time, but I'm thinking of making something this time around. I'm in Canada though, so I'm not paying out of pocket for any aspect of care (save for a couple of home birth items), even the pool is borrowed free from the practice. So I feel a gift isn't completely over the top. I don't know that they expect it though.
Hah, I'm glad you came out and said it, this is how I feel about it. I can spare $5 for a cup of coffee, but I'm not going to get elaborate with things.
I don't think it's expected but I do think it's more of a norm in the HB culture than in other sorts of medical care. I think for both of my births I never got around to doing anything for either of my MW's because I didn't get it arranged pre-baby and then didn't have the focus after the baby.
Rnra, I didn't realize you were a HB mama!
That's very nice.
I do imagine the gifts a MW receives are sometimes more stressful for the MW too...in that she then feels she must thank the family and etc. Sometimes the gift-giving culture can seem stressful to me.
I love the bead idea!
I gave my midwife a thank you card with a picture of the baby, and a box of fancy chocolates from a local chocolate shop to share among everyone in the office during my last postpartum visit. It's not very creative, but I was still feeling pretty frazzled, and didn't have tons of extra cash.
I'm so glad to see this thread! I'm expecting #6 this summer (my fourth with my MW), and would really like to give my MW a small token of my appreciation. I am certain she doesn't expect anything, but she has become more than "just a MW" over the last several years. In light of that, I would like to give her something, not an elaborate or hugely expensive gift, but something she can appreciate. I was thinking a coffee or gas card, or some homemade jam or something. What do you think?
No way! I make soap too and I was thinking I would give my midwife some as a gift. Soapmaking is a lost art these days, so it's nice to see someone else who does it.