I am a nanny to a beautiful 12 month old boy. He just recently started picking up some very dangerous habits, and I find it quite the challenge for me. He climbs on things, everything... He is very strong and can do pull-ups. It is nearly impossible to hide things from him, and EVERYTHING is a stool. I think his parents really allow him to have free-range of all things, if he points he gets taken where he is pointed and to what he wants, always. This is so dangerous for me, I don't know what to do if I have to use the bathroom. Two situations, he was kind of upset because it was bottle time on the schedule, so I set him down right next to me, while I poured five scoops of formula. In this one minute time frame, he somehow got in the family room, and on his big sisters art table, knocked down the cat treats everywhere, and was petting the cat. I had to *tinkle* once, and he was on the kitchen table... He had pushed a toy fire truck up to the side... His home is also four stories high. There is only one baby gate into the basement, and he can open doors. He can get the key and put them in the key hole, and turn the latch. This is a very difficult thing as I live in Germany and the latches are complicated. He is extremely well-coordinated, and nearly makes me have a heart-attack every day. I don't know what I should do about this, and how to make sure he can expect some sort of uniformity from his routine.
I have another problem too, I think. I don't know what is the typical age for speaking, but he doesn't speak at all. He knows a couple words, but will not speak. I wonder if it might be too much that he is taught both English and German. What I currently do, is repeat everything in both English and German. I'm not sure if this is the correct way. He does respond to things I say a lot of the time... Not with words, but pointing, or looking at an object.
Is there something I am doing wrong, and what can I do about all of his frightening and dangerous habits? I really feel the need to put myself in a time-out a lot of time... And I feel like I am losing battles with a 12 month old. I know I should not feel this way, because he is just learning... But I really don't know what to do.
I also have trouble with feeding, when he was younger we had a perfect set schedule, and planned lunches, but he won't eat now. Since he doesn't eat the baby food, his parents just kind of let him eat whatever he wants. A lot of times he won't eat at all, and then he is cranky. I would never want to force feed him, so I always give him options. Would you like the apple today, or the orange? Do you want toast, or rice? ...He gets really happy to choose, and then does not eat. Usually, the only thing he will eat is plain white toast.
Edited by Loren DiTemps - 1/24/13 at 9:47am