My husband and I have 4 children. 2 of his by a previous marriage, I brought one to our marriage and we had one together. Our youngest is now in school, my husband and I are 41 & 43 respectively. After the birth of our last, I've used an IUD for birth control. The time is about up on the IUD. I started hinting about him getting a vasectomy a couple of years ago. Last year after my annual Gyno appt I brought home information on both vasectomy and tubal ligation. Six months ago we had another discussion about more children. Hurt by his delay of even looking into a vasectomy, I said "Are you just saving yourself for your next wife?" To which he said he didn't know it was so important to me and that he didn't want anymore children period. First part of this year I had another Gyno appt and talked to the Dr about tubal ligation. When I made the appt I mentioned to my husband I would be looking into tubal ligation. After the appt, I told him that the office would call me when they had a time I could get into surgery. I've no set up the Pre Op appointment and the OR appt for it to be done. I have gotten not ONE word out of him about any of it. Based on the cost to our family, the relative dangers of each procedure, the recovery time for either procedure, it makes since for him to get the vasectomy. After all, I've already gone through child birth, wasn't that enough pain an suffering? I sometimes think he just doesn't love me enough to do this for us.
Am I just being a shrew?