So I've been in the process of interviewing doulas this week. It's been an interesting experience! I've never been in the interviewer capacity (well I have but not like this!) It feels really strange to be 'interviewing' doulas, especially since I am enjoying so many of them and can see how they would ALL be great at what they do but alas I am selecting only one.
I interviewed both professional certified doulas and training doulas. We are low income at the moment so cost is a factor but at the end of it all, I just wanted someone who can help make our natural home birth goal a reality, and support both my husband and myself through this process of being first time parents.
I think we finally made our choice today! Which makes me really happy but at the same time I'm now fretting over how to word the "I'm sorry we're going with someone else" letter to the rest of the doulas.
After I confirm with her that she wants to be our doula and that she's still available (hopefully nothing changed since yesterday!) then I feel like I have the structure of my birth goals in place: location (in-laws house), midwife, doula, and support people. Feels really good! Especially since I am at the half way mark and can't believe we're half over! that went by FAST!
We went with a training doula, who despite only attending one official birth on paper has attended over half a dozen others family and friends. She also is really passionate about breastfeeding support and is studying child psychology and all of the physiological processes an infant goes through when it's born, and the important interactions that take place. Those two things were really important to me since I come from a home with no breastfeeding (none of the women in my family did it), and my family's births tended to be more on the medical side so I'm happy to have a doula with knowledge and passion for natural birth there. She also seems like a bit of a bulldog should I need to transfer to hospital (I have a lot of anxiety about my birth plan wishes not being respected). So overall I'm really happy !
anyone else hiring a doula? figured we could use this space to ask questions, compare notes, etc