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post #21 of 595

I'm only 33, but I just wanted to come in here and offer some love and support!!  heartbeat.gif

post #22 of 595
Copied over from the Infertility One Thread... I have two Ovidrel triggers in my fridge, plus I ordered more Clomid and Progesterone. I am seriously considering being done after two "all out" cycles using those supplies. After almost 8 years without success, and the fact that I will be 44 soon, I need to be realistic. I need to move on. I need to stop stressing out over donors. I would like to date, too. I honestly wonder if all of the work I have put into conception has soured me against parenthood. Sigh.
post #23 of 595
Hugs....I can empathize completely. It can feel very discouraging and isolating. I do want to let go of this desire time and time again. I just want to live & enjoy life without having this cloud hang over me. I also don't know if I'll ever parent and it's a difficult realization to face.
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Copied over from the Infertility One Thread... I have two Ovidrel triggers in my fridge, plus I ordered more Clomid and Progesterone. I am seriously considering being done after two "all out" cycles using those supplies. After almost 8 years without success, and the fact that I will be 44 soon, I need to be realistic. I need to move on. I need to stop stressing out over donors. I would like to date, too. I honestly wonder if all of the work I have put into conception has soured me against parenthood. Sigh.
post #24 of 595
Thread Starter 

Karina and Stevi - so sorry to hear you are feeling discouraged, I really do understand.

 

I am fully expecting AF in  a couple of days after another cycle where I had strong symptoms. It is really screwing with my head!dizzy.gif

I've had three days of negative tests,and don't expect a positive anytime soon. I feel annoyed that I've been trying for so long and apart from loss, there's not been the joy I thought I would have. I truly expected by age 45 I would be done with all this,and yet, here I am,at 46 and 4 months still trying.

 

It would be so freeing to wipe my hands of the rollercoaster ttc ride, but I actually find I'm stuck in this cycle of wishing,hoping,praying that I will be one of the 1% that actually have a take home baby at this age.

 

I think having regular cycles, where I seem to be ovulating every month (I'm charting) has given me a false sense of hope too. But how can I be sure that I am ovulating?  Medical intervention is out of the question because my DH is not fully on board (he's of the opinion that it probably won't happen, so there's no need for contraception rather than being supportive of actually timing sex etc...). I bought some clomid online from Canada because my doctor here wouldn't prescribe it (I'm too old), but I feel worried that if I take it it could have a detrimental affect on my fertility. SO instead I've been trying red clover isoflavones (which seem to give me good EWCM).

 

So, I don't know wht to do next. I'm feeling like I should let go of all the supplements and see what happens. But then again, what if they actually may help?

 

I am sorry to be complaining: I do have children already and I know my situation is not nearly as difficult as those of you without children.

 

I wish you all the best,whatever you do.

post #25 of 595

Have ya'll given any thought to using a donated embryo?

post #26 of 595
Shell77... I can afford to care for a child, but I cannot afford any major fertility treatments.
post #27 of 595

Ohhh I understand that ... Ugh trust me .... after spending 20,000.00 on a FAILED ivf I understand.... embryo doation usually only cost 6000.00 TOTAL if you go to a RE and they have some available. Well at least here in Texas.

post #28 of 595

I joined the old thread pretty late in the game, but I'd like to join this one. We have one son who is a bit more than 2, and we'd like to have a second child. I'm 41 and had a miscarriage in January. I had two miscarriages before our son was born, so three total. 

 

I'm not sure that we'll actively try this month. I've had one full cycle since the miscarriage, and we may sit out this one, too. I think I could use the time/space, too, to make a little more peace with my body. But we also probably won't actively avoid conceiving, and I think we'll start up again with the next cycle. 

post #29 of 595
Thread Starter 

Hi cldeshano and welcome to the new thread.

It is a slow moving thread, not much happening. The old threads (I've been ttc for a really long time and have been on a few of them) seemed to have more happening.

 

I am in the tww yet again. I won't be testing for about a week, and I am trying to remain objective and not get my hopes up like I do most months only to have them come crashing down.

 

I have kept taking my supplements, but not as many as before. I decided against the clomid.I really don't want to mess with the fertility I already have and I have read that taking clomid when you already ovulate on your own will not improve your chances of pregnancy.

 

I hope everyone on the thread is doing well.

post #30 of 595

Gumblossom, you are right, it is slow-moving thread, but it's an important one! Good luck for this next week. I understand what you are saying about trying to remain objective. The cycle of hope and despair that we sometimes find ourselves in--(well, it can even be every time we see that bfn or AF, but to different degrees. For me it depends on what else is happening in my life-- it can be tough. I'm due to test in a couple of days. I'm scared about getting a bfn, but then I'm also scared of what I would do if it was a bfp! I'd have three kids really close together in age... My DH says sometimes we are insane for even trying, yet he still goes along with things... lol. Take care!

 

Hi to everyone else!

post #31 of 595
All of the threads were much busier in the past. I miss all of the action! lol I haven't been posting much myself because I don't want to draw myself back into that insanity of seeing every bodily twitch as a symptom, getting my hopes up, only to have them ground into the dirt, time and time again. It was just too much. Also, I don't want to post all of my rants and disappointment. I think all that does is remind me more of my lack of success, and depress everyone else at the same time! :) I look every day for new posts, though. As, I still have high hopes for all of you!
post #32 of 595
Thread Starter 

I know what you mean Stevi, especially when you(we) have been doing this for such a long time.

 

I have high hopes for everyone too. Every BFP, every pregnancy,every baby to someone over forty makes my heart sing and helps to keep me hopeful (despite being at the older end of the forties scale).

 

I still hold out hope for myself too.

 

I've not had very high temps this month, but have a lot of symptoms again - perhaps the problem is my progesterone isn't very high? I'll keep using the cream,and if I do get a bfp I will get a script for the progesterone asap.

 

It's now just a case of wait and see. This time next week I'll have a better idea if the tingling breasts and pinching sensation I had in my lower abdomen yesterday is anything at all. I had acupuncture last night and apparently my pulses are all good and showing good energy, which could be promising (but it was the same last month and I wasn't pregnant).

post #33 of 595

Gearing up to ovulate in the next few days and DH has been to the doctor about his issues that contribute to our infertility. Yea for that!  He has some concrete suggestions from the md and seems all ready to try them.

So, I am hoping this will be the month............. well I hope every month is the month but this time I am more hopeful?! Sorry if that's not quite proper English but you know what I mean.

 

Good Luck to those in the TWW.

post #34 of 595

Gumblossom, hope these signs equal a bfp for you next week!

 

Stevi, hoping you are reaping the benefits of a more peaceful ttc'ing journey. It is really, really hard.

 

Orangemomma, our RE recommends FertilAid for men, or another brand (can't remember the name?) that does that same thing. Dh has been taking it for the past 3 months. I thought it interesting that something 'natural' like that was recommended, because sometimes I tend to the think the medical community always want more exact science when it comes to things. I was happy that she promotes the use of it. Also, at my clinic they sell coQ10 and a few other things. The whole area of human reproduction can be such a unknown-- miraculous, really how babies come to be! Best wishes for a speedy bfp!

 

So on that note, I will share with you that I got a bfp!!! I had been feeling 'off', and at first I thought it had something to do with trying to get my final paper done (I had been neglecting to eat at regular times this past week, and having a large coffee a day with chocolate here and there-- so I thought it was related to that). So then DH suggests I test with my internet cheapies, and I was so shocked to discover two lines. I am very excited, but at the same time I am terrified... so hoping this is a sticky little bean!  I do not for a moment take anything for granted, so let's just say I'm being cautiously optimistic.

 

Good luck to everyone else! 

post #35 of 595

Please add me to the TTC section.  I'd been on the earlier ones, but it looks like it's been revised quite a bit. 

 

lovbeingamommy 48  (ttc #2 - 3 m/c 2008, 2010)

 

THANKS!  winky.gif

post #36 of 595

Congratulations Tenzinsmama! Fingers crossed for a sticky bean! 

post #37 of 595
Good luck next week, gumblossom! I'll be thinking good thoughts. And I just went back through all the posts on this thread and chuckled about your idea of giving up the healthy lifestyle for smoking, drinking, fast food, etc. it does seem sometimes as though there's not much left to do but laugh and try something totally different.

Stevi, I also hope you're able to benefit from a more peaceful ttc time, like tenzinsmama said.

Orangemomma, that's wonderful that you're feeling positive about the tests your DH did. Hoping this is your month!

Congrats, tenzinsmama! So exciting! I'll be wishing a sticky bean for you.

Well, a week ago I'd been feeling like I was having pregnancy symptoms. I had my first cycle since my January miscarriage, and though we didn't aggressively ttc, i knew it was a possibility for us this cycle. I took a test that came back negative.

But I still felt pregnant two days later, took another test, and I got a bfp.

Given my history of MCs, I'm cautiously optimistic. But I have a good feeling about this one. I'll be getting weekly acupuncture for the next month and may talk to my doctor about progesterone cream. Hopefully these things will help this one stick.
post #38 of 595

Congrats, Cldeshano!!  Positive thoughts and vibes sent your way that you have a sticky bean, too!

 

Okay, let's hope that more are on the way!!!!

post #39 of 595
Thread Starter 

Congratulations , Cldeshano and Tenzinsmama. What wonderful news. Lets keep those BFP's coming!

post #40 of 595

Congrats to cldeshano! Fingers crossed for another sticky bean!

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