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Thanks so much! I know I am biased but I think he has an amazing smile :-)

Gumblossom- Wish I could share something, but I think it really was a matter of just finally getting the "golden egg". After the third M/C I had some basic testing done that showed no issues (other than my age and the expected changes with that) and as my cycles were still quite regular and OPK/BBT charting seemed to be confirming O each cycle, we just kept giving things as much of a shot as we could around my fertile time. Only things I was taking were a prenatal vitamin, a vitamin D supplement, and for awhile I took low dose aspirin as I had read some studies suggesting it could be helpful. The first loss at 19 weeks was due to Triploidy (so a random chromosomal issue) and after that the 3 M/C and 2 chemical pregnancies I can only assume were due to age related chromosomal issues of my eggs (or sperm issues as older dads also have a higher chance of such). I can only say that I am so glad that we kept trying. Wishing you best of luck!

Tenzinsmama- Wow on your cycles returning so early both times...not even a hint of things returning here, and as much as I want to try again, and am painfully aware of my age, I can't see me cutting the nursing short for my sweet little guy just to get my cycle back sooner, I just hope my body will soon kick in on its own to at least give me that chance to try. I wouldn't let your antral follicle count bother you, from what I saw from another post of yours it is still higher than mine was I had testing done years ago....and hey you are only 43! :-)
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thanks guys, first loss

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I'm waiting for my golden egg we are looking for embryo donors as we speck. Yes still here no baby yet
Edited by mcghee45baby - 1/21/14 at 12:07pm
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My heart goes out to you! I know that pain so well. Big huge hugs mama!
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I'm so sorry, Chilee. Big hugs, and please take good care of yourself, physically and emotionally.
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Chilee, so sorry for your loss. ((Hugs))

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Hi everyone. Hope I'm posting correctly...Just wanted to introduce myself. I'm 40, breastfeeding a 1.5 year old, and ttc 5 months. I was so happy to find this forum. I was just about ready to give up! My dh and I got pregnant on our first try with ds so this is all new to me. Very frustrating and sad to keep seeing AF. This is the first month I didn't spend my entire paycheck on negative pregnancy tests, so I guess I'm getting more patient. Anyway, glad we are all in this together!
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Welcome! Best of luck for a BFP soon!
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Hey, ladies...

Our 12-week appointment today brought us sad news. An ultrasound confirmed that a loss happened very recently—within a couple of days. Sigh... We had been holding our breath up to this point and hoping for the best. We never took it for granted. We'll try again and, if it was meant to be, it will happen.

Our dear, sweet little son (14 months) gave me kisses and hugs when he saw me cry. What a kid!

I may or may not be checking in here. We'll see how I feel.

I wish all of you continued success and abundant good luck!
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Gelato, I'm so sorry, mama. Sending ((( hugs ))) to you. I hope you can be kind to yourself and let the people who love you take good care of you. That's a lovely story about your sweet son. 

 

Chilee, Sending lots of ((( hugs ))) to you, too. I'm so sorry. I am literally feeling your pain right now, as I am going through a m/c myself (7 weeks). It is so unbelievably hard. I believe you are a member from long ago using a new name? If you remember me, can you PM me and tell me what your former name was?

 

Long time no post for me... I was inspired to post when I happened to pop in and saw Saoirse's comment about missing the old members. Hi, Saoirse and Tenzinsmama! Do you two remember me?

 

McGhee45... I noticed you pasted in an old post from a former member, Halifax. Are you from back in the day, as well?

 

When I stopped in and saw Saoirse's post, I had been planning to post about my pregnancy once I saw a heartbeat. But alas, our 7-week ultrasound showed a sac with debris. Despite better-than-perfect betas and progesterone and strong pregnancy symptoms. I guess what I had instead of a healthy bean was a rockstar placenta. They are treating this as a possible ectopic, as well (would be my second)... I've had two D&Cs in the last 48 hours, and my first in a loooong series of methotrexate shots (special protocol for very high HCG levels). 

 

I'm 45, and we really thought this was it... our much-longed-for baby, our dream-come-true, our happy ending as the poetic culmination of a long and winding road, and a sometimes treacherous journey. Now, I am angry, in a state of shock and disbelief, and just so so sad. I really don't understand my journey and am not sure how and where to find meaning. We will likely be taking a break (or just plain hanging it up), so I'm not sure if I'll be around, but I will probably try to find a loss support forum somewhere around here.

 

I just wanted to share with the folks who might remember me from the old days. It was good to see those names!

 

And to everyone else... keep on keepin' on. You women are awesome. May your bellies and babies be blessed. :namaste 

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Chile, litmama, and gelato- I am so so very sorry for your losses! My heart aches for each and every one of you. I literally have tears in my eyes.
This list was so supportive after each of my losses last year. I have remained here even though I'm not ttc because of those losses and the support I received here. Each day I wonder if I am still carrying a viable pregnancy.
The pain each of you are feeling right now is so close to my heart. I wish you all find the peace you need to heal. Take care of yourselves. )))HUGS(((
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Thank you, caritasrainbow! I really appreciate it. At first I was pinching myself with some disbelief that I was pregnant but over the last couple of weeks, I had really taken it to heart. I hope that you and all the other mamas here DO have viable pregnancies. I'll be thinking of you and wishing you the best. And, with any luck, I'll be back here with good news again before too long.
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Gelato, I'm so sorry about your loss. What a sweet little boy you have, and those hugs and kisses must have meant so much to your aching heart.

 

LitMama, so sorry for your loss. I do remember you from the old days... I've missed you.

 

Chilee, thinking of you...

 

I don't have a lot to post... just feeling sad about the losses experienced by each of you.  Seems so cruel, to have the hopes and dreams of this new little life, only to lose it.  Sending love and light to you and your little ones lost.

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Yes it's me still tying how are you
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Thread Starter 

I am so sorry to hear about the losses experienced on the thread. (((hugs)))

 

I have just had another visit from AF.

 

I've finally had enough. After 4 and a half years, three miscarriages and no bfp for over 18 months, I am throwing away the opks, hpts and timing of sex every month.At 47 years old, I think it just isn't going to happen, or if it does, it will be a miracle that I wasn't really involved in. I won't be using contraception, so who knows, maybe I will get a surprise, but it is time for me to focus on the rest of my life without the question mark about whether another child will be part of it.

 

I wish everyone the best of luck, and healing to those of you dealing with loss. I know how difficult that journey is, but rest assured, it will get easier.

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Thank you so much, Caritasrainbow, TenzinsMama and Gumblossom. I really appreciate the kind words. :grouphug I don't have much to say, either, and am feeling very sick from the methotrexate shots, so I can't really focus on anything. But I just wanted to say thank you.

 

McGheeBaby, thanks for your note, I'm still not sure who you are since you have a new name (?), but I will see if I can figure it out!

 

Gumblossom, ((( hugs ))) to you, old friend! I totally hear you. You and I have been in it for the long haul! I love what you said about the possibility of a surprise pregnancy that you would have no hand in. I feel like maybe that's what it would take for me, too. I also look forward to moving some energy toward other areas of my life. In fact, that's exactly what I had been doing when I got pregnant in December! I was just enjoying my life and not really paying attention to TTC. At least I know I can pick up where I left off... 

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I have my 12 week appt Monday. I will actually only be 11 weeks 5 days. Please say a little prayer for me. Harmony results should also be in sometime this coming week.
I think about you mamas with recent losses every day. I pray that you are healing.
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Originally Posted by LitMama View Post

Gelato, I'm so sorry, mama. Sending ((( hugs ))) to you. I hope you can be kind to yourself and let the people who love you take good care of you. That's a lovely story about your sweet son. 

Chilee, Sending lots of ((( hugs ))) to you, too. I'm so sorry. I am literally feeling your pain right now, as I am going through a m/c myself (7 weeks). It is so unbelievably hard. I believe you are a member from long ago using a new name? If you remember me, can you PM me and tell me what your former name was?

Long time no post for me... I was inspired to post when I happened to pop in and saw Saoirse's comment about missing the old members. Hi, Saoirse and Tenzinsmama! Do you two remember me?

McGhee45... I noticed you pasted in an old post from a former member, Halifax. Are you from back in the day, as well?

When I stopped in and saw Saoirse's post, I had been planning to post about my pregnancy once I saw a heartbeat. But alas, our 7-week ultrasound showed a sac with debris. Despite better-than-perfect betas and progesterone and strong pregnancy symptoms. I guess what I had instead of a healthy bean was a rockstar placenta. They are treating this as a possible ectopic, as well (would be my second)... I've had two D&Cs in the last 48 hours, and my first in a loooong series of methotrexate shots (special protocol for very high HCG levels). 

I'm 45, and we really thought this was it... our much-longed-for baby, our dream-come-true, our happy ending as the poetic culmination of a long and winding road, and a sometimes treacherous journey. Now, I am angry, in a state of shock and disbelief, and just so so sad. I really don't understand my journey and am not sure how and where to find meaning. We will likely be taking a break (or just plain hanging it up), so I'm not sure if I'll be around, but I will probably try to find a loss support forum somewhere around here.

I just wanted to share with the folks who might remember me from the old days. It was good to see those names!

And to everyone else... keep on keepin' on. You women are awesome. May your bellies and babies be blessed. namaste.gif  

Lit mama I am so glad you are here...and not glad. I pm d you. I missed you and it is really good to have a familiar face here.
It was my first pregnancy that did not result in a baby and I was blown back.
We are going to give it a shot of not preventing so I thought I would come back and see what I can do to better my chances. Too much coffee does not help greensad.gif
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You're in my thoughts, caritasrainbow! I hope all goes smoothly tomorrow. I'm wishing all the best for you. Fingers crossed!

I've been quiet and contemplative as my husband and I process our situation. Having this community of support means *so much* to me. I'm trying to be patient while nature takes its course and doing my best to look on the bright side of things.

Hope everyone out there is staying warm and doing well!
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Okay, off to see my OB for my check up today. I'm nervous because at last visit when I freaked out, the nurse couldn't get the heart rate with the Doppler, which is why I ended up with the US. Not sure if my dr will be so accomdating. Plus I haven't seen my dr since the sch was found, and it got bigger between visits last time, although it was still small. And I have not stayed off stairs completely and have been picking up my 2 year old a lot. ~sigh~. Always something to worry about I guess. Harmony results should be in my Thursday too.
I have a thread called Missed Miscarriges under the loss support groups that remains active from time to time. Some of you might find it helpful. I started it back in May of last year.
I hope you are all continuing to heal and wish you all baby dust sprinkles for that magic golden egg, along with the gorilla glue to make it stick.
I'll update y'all this afternoon, my appt isn't until noon.
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