Please tell me I'm not the only one...
I'm feeling a bit sad and isolated. It doesn't feel like anyone in my life is excited about the baby. The same exact thing happened with DD, so I've still got some lingering resentment from then... This time is perhaps worse since the baby's not our first?
This is the time when pregnant women usually experience a baby shower (or two)... People get in touch to check in. People pass on hand-me-downs from their own kids. Often, friends and family even ask if there's any special thing they can do or buy to help out... But I feel like I'm living in some kind of alternate universe where everyone is loving and wonderful (seriously)... But they're NOT gushy about the idea of a new baby coming. They don't organize special baby-focused events like showers. And I'm SICK OF IT!
We were out on the west coast over the holidays and deep down I desperately wanted my husband's family to organize some type of baby party for us. Nada.
We live in this really awesome condo complex of about 17 homes, and I've secretly hoped that they'll use this new baby as an excuse to throw a little party. Nothing!
I have one very sweet friend who mailed me a box of hand me downs recently - but it was almost all stuff that I'd loaned her a year ago when her baby was born... So, yeah, I was appreciative, but in more of a "thanks for returning my stuff" kind of way.
Exactly ONE special thing has been purchased for this baby by any family member or friend - it was a really random onesie set that my mom got in a consignment shop. It was sweet of her to buy something, but it was just so random and impulsive... (Especially given that it was the ONLY thing she's going to gift this baby with, you know?)
What's the freaking deal, people?!?
The part that really stings is that one of my best friends was just telling me about an elaborate baby shower that's she's planning for another friend. And my MIL tells me about showers she attends for coworkers, and what gifts were on the registry, etc. My SIL spends lots of time thinking about special gifts to buy the new babies of her coworkers... I'm just honestly jealous and I feel like I'm not getting any special attention! Wah!
I want a party! I want decorations! I want everyone to ask me all kinds of ridiculous questions about how I'm feeling. I want them to ask to feel the baby kicking! And I want presents!!! I want you to ask me if there's anything this new baby needs, and I'll say "why yes, thank you. could you get us a hooded bath towel?" and then they will buy me a freaking hooded bath towel and they will wrap it in yellow wrapping paper and tie it with a bow and we will make a very big deal out of this $12 effort!!! AAAUUUGGGGHHHHH!!!!!