WTF am I going to do with 2 kids??!?!?!?!?! - Page 2
Thanks, everybody! I am feeling so much better. I am going to re-read this thread when it is not too late and make a couple additions to my list of things to get done before baby gets here including obtaining/ stashing toys/ treats for ds for when I will be occupied with the new babe, plus any other time saving devices. Since DS's birthday is coming up, we should probably look at some new toys out there that would keep him occupied. He got a Leap Frog pen thingy for Christmas, but we haven't purchased or downloaded any books yet, so that might be a good place to start. He is learning to use a salvaged laptop and loves playing sesame street games, but he still gets stuck often enough, that I would worry about him having a fit when I'm in the middle of nursing the babe. Hmmmm....Thank goodness spring will be just around the corner when this one arrives. Playing in the dirt is his favorite activity.
My kiddos were 22 months apart. It was great, because my older one was too little to be jealous, but old enough to climb into his car seat himself and fetch diapers for me and other things like that. He adored his sister and I remember snuggling together with both of them and just being totally blissed out! It was awesome.
The transition was so much easier than what I had been imagining and stressing about (and we were insanely busy at that time, too... Our house had been burglarized just days before my due date with DD (I confronted the burglar in the middle of the night... yes, we were home... yes, it's a long story! haha. I'll share sometime) And I was subpoenaed to attend multiple court dates as a witness testifying against him. It was a nightmare! I had to go one time when I was only 4 days postpartum and they wouldn't let me bring the baby with me to court... yuck. Anyway.. because of the break-in, we VERY QUICKLY searched for houses, put an offer on a house just an hour before I went into labor, negotiated the sale of the house over the phone 4 hours after the birth the next day (!!!) and then went through all that crazy paperwork/inspections/etc those first few postpartum weeks as we were packing our old apartment and moving to the new place when we closed, when baby was less than 2 months old. ACK! AND.... to top it all off... my husband had recently started a new job and was only able to take 3 days off after the birth, so I was more or less on my own to take care of two new YOUNG kids and pack up our house (and tour our apartment to potential renters) and then go back to work at 6 weeks postpartum. Wow... it was so insane now that I'm remembering it all! haha. Anyway.... I'm sure your life will not be anywhere near as crazy and bizarre as all that, so if I could do it (and enjoy it), you'll be just fine!
Also... seeing your first baby next to the new baby is so emotional and amazing-- seeing how much he or she has grown... and how much love he or she has for the new little one... it's enough to make your heart just overflow with wonder and love!
Clumsy, I am so there with you right now. For this whole last 8 months, when DS has had a particularly stressful moment with me, I can't help but think, ".....and how would I chase him through the parking lot while taking care of my infant exactly?????"
DS is incredibly, INCREDIBLY physical. He throws things CONSTANTLY. He is going to be 3 in a few weeks and he still has great difficulty in just walking with me. Honestly, walking with him is like trying to walk one of those out of control dogs that Ceasar Milan retrains. No kidding. And so it means I carry him often, for his own safety. How will I carry an infant and a 40 lb preschooler? No clue
I have no idea what to do with two kids. But I have asked for plenty of input from friends with more than one...
1. If you have an upstairs/ downstairs, have 2 of everything so that you will have what you need at each level.
2. sit on the floor to nurse so that you can still play with your older child
3. have new toys or "special" toys that only come out during nursing time so that older child is engaged
4. use TV. sparingly, but use TV
The biggest thing that freaks me out is that we have no help. DH's family lives 40 minutes away, but god forbid that they get in the car and visit. MIL will not drive on the highway. FIL will drive her, but complains about it the whole. Damn. Time. And to be honest, they are not the most enjoyable people to be around sometimes, anyway.
I'm hoping that DS will be really enamored of his new sister and that it may slow down his crazy tendencies to throw things.
Here's the miraculous "praise God!" part of the story! My son never woke up! Haha. He had no idea what had happened. We were all physically ok (it makes me sick to think of what could have happened to me or my unborn daughter). The police caught the guy 2 hours later (he tried to sell out laptop at 3am and the buyer called the police on him instead!!!!). We were able to get our stuff back ! (He had stolen more than just our computer). We had just a month prior gotten a pretty decent chunk of money from an insurance settlement (my husband was hit by a car 2 years prior and we FINALLY got the money from the accident) and it was just enough for a down payment on a house! (The timing here is just amazing to me how God worked out all these details). So... We wound up buying our first house in a week, haha, and moving to a "safe" suburb right after the baby was born!
I really miss living in the city, but I was just way too anxious living there after that! I still make DH wake up and check the house if I hear any suspicious noises, an it has been 2.5 years since the break in.
We have a lot of crazy stories, haha. But God has always worked them out for our good! It's really amazing to see how everything we've been through had brought us to where we are now!
Chapsie, that is an incredible story! I'm so glad that you and your DD were ok and also that your DS didnt wake up and get scared! My grandfather lives south of buffalo. Wouldn't it be fun to meet up sometime? I've always been jealous of mdc mamas that live close together.
My sister lives in Rochester!
I'd love to meet up! I'm thinking a fun summer play date with our babies would be totally amazing. I would drive out to Rochester-- you guys have "simply crepes" restaurant (in Pittsford, I think) which had the most delicious crepes I've ever tasted, haha. And, of course, the museum of play! Buffalo is not quite as exciting, but we do have Niagara Falls.
I want to meet up with jodieanneanton, too. She's in Cleveland, which is only 3 hrs from buffalo (prob 4 hrs for you).
Anyone else in the midAtlantic states that want to plan a play date?