I hope this is the right forum....it's a different sort of breastfeeding "challenge" to say in the least.
Long story short, but I had recent marriage breakdown. Due to his narcissism and abuse, our issues are unresolvable. I have been the primary caregiver for 2 sweet girls (dd2 15 months and dd1 almost 6). I served him with divorce papers requesting sole custody. He lawyer responded and is asking for 50/50 custody (split to start) and is asking that I wean dd2 at age 18 months so that x can assume 50/50 custody of both.
This is so infuriating. This man has not spent more than 3 hours per week on his own (on average) with dd2. I came home once to both him and the baby crying - him over "how his life had gotten so bad". He drank to decrease the stress of caring for a baby. He is basically trying to get out of paying child support.
But what it also highlights is how he is trying to further control me (and my body) and deliberately sabotage my bond with the girls. In Canada, pediatricians recommend breastfeeding continue until at least age 2 and as long as mutually desired beyond that. To me, x has no awareness of dd2's needs.
Can a court order 50/50 custody of a toddler who is still breastfeeding? That would be a sure way for her to suddenly wean and my supply to dry up. I will need all the strength I can gather for this fight. dd1 nursed until age 3.5 (at bedtime only for the last year)....and I finally weaned her d/t pressure from x.