I had a surprise BPP at my OB appt, yesterday, and discovered that baby has flipped breech. I about burst into tears, but managed to keep it to a few. I'm trying really hard not to freak out, because I know it won't help any.
writermama, as far as I am aware, you should be able to refuse any treatment, but I don't know how much they'll listen "in the moment," kwim? I think baby is also considered something of a grey area. They are more likely to respect refusal of something for yourself, but, depending on the hospital, may consider doing something against your wishes, "in the best interest of baby." Your best bet would be to go in with a birth plan, and to go over all your wishes with your practitioner and the hospital, in advance, if possible. Let them know how strongly you feel about this or that, and find out what you/they are willing to compromise on. The OB that my midwives turned me over to was not the compromising sort and told me that I shouldn't be upset, because I was going to have a healthy baby. Typing that, I find that I'm still angry at his callousness, after all these years. If I had known better, I would've dropped my midwifery practice and found an OB who would at least consider what I had hoped for in a c-section--or one who would have delivered breech. My daughter was in the perfect position for a breech delivery. Another thing you might consider is getting in contact with your local ICAN group. They might be able to tell you more than I can, since most of my "knowledge" is based on the research I've done in the years since my cesarean.
My mom told me, the other night, that she was talking to a woman at her doctor's office who was stunned that I was attempting a VBAC. She was told that they "don't do that anymore, around here." Which means that a great many women in the county in which I grew up are being told that VBAC is not an option.