UPDATE! Great News!
Had that long-awaited ultrasound today! After 3 months of wondering and worrying about whether the baby had arms or not, and if there might be any other defects, we finally got our confirmation today! The first thing that popped up on the screen was two gorgeous, perfect arms! I bawled! For 3 months now, I've been replaying that ER doctor's words in my head, "We can't detect any upper limbs on your baby. I'm sorry." and cursing myself for losing all my ID so I couldn't even get in to see anybody about it until now. But it was all worth it this morning when I saw those perfect arms on that screen! Not only does she have arms, but every other part of her looks perfect as well! Very clearly a girl (yay! a boy would have been just as welcome, but I was kinda hoping for a girl). Placenta is high anterior. Everything looks good, so it looks like we're all set to plan our UC. Doctor was very nice, and went to great length and detail to make sure everything he said was well understood. But he also rubbed me the wrong way, when he was talking to me about communication and cooperation between me and the doctors, and saying that they are my "safety net" and that I absolutely need their support to get through this (I'm bipolar, and we were talking about going back on a low dose of my safest med). And I'm sitting there thinking, "Yeah, you're gonna feel kinda funny when, come June, you hear through the grapevine that I disreguarded your safety net and delivered my daughter myself, aren't ya?" :-) Yup, they're my safety net, but not in the way they think they are. They are there to confirm the health of the baby so I know it's okay to UC (which, normally I wouldn't have even bothered with, but with the circumstances, and the likelihood of more severe birth defects if, in fact, there were no arms, I felt I needed that sono), and they're there to leave a paper trail to prove that I'd been seeing a doctor, and not just planning a homebirth (it's going to be an "oops, labor was too quick!" to all but a couple very close friends). That's all the "safety net" I need from you Doc, thanks!