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post #41 of 72

Thanks! We have started using protection just in case. I got pregnant with DS2 with the first egg ovulated after DS1 so I'm very aware/scared of that happening again. Though if my sex drive suddenly returns and I end up tackling my husband one morning (as I did that morning many years ago) I'll now know I'm ovulating winky.gif

post #42 of 72
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Though if my sex drive suddenly returns and I end up tackling my husband one morning (as I did that morning many years ago) I'll now know I'm ovulating winky.gif

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so very very true.

 

i think my poor husband is terrified of the day he'll have to beat me off!!!

post #43 of 72

we are thinking about this too - i had one evening of spotting right at 5 months and i consider that my 'warning' - we have been using withdrawl though because we literally have no other options right now -( no hormones, condoms leak too often ?!, etc etc) i am pretty good with noticing fertile CM which i have had none, i also have zero sex drive which is a very good indicator at this stage.. we are considering the withdrawl kind of a back up method .. its not perfect but it lowers the chance if i were to have some sort of freak ovulation before a period and a long enough LP to conceive - i normally have months and months of cycles before i have a LP long enough to maintain a pregnancy .. though when it happens, it is a one cycle 6 day LP , the next pregnant sort of situation.   (that has happened 3 times now..twice around 20 months, the first time around 10 mo and i had a m/c)  anyway, i am ok with more kids if it happens.. though i want to do what we can to prevent it - our options are limited and i am not going to let that depress me too much - i know based on my history that chances are good we can avoid based on symptoms with withdrawl until about 18 months, then i'm going to have to get serious, which is hard because my cycles are still not regular and my hormones (sex drive) goes nuts at that point. . i don't know if my cycles will ever regulate while breastfeeding since they never have before..  i really want to get to at least 3.5 years this time before getting pregnant again - i am worn out having 4 kids 25-28 mo apart!!

post #44 of 72
We're actually taking the NFP classes. Since I don't have a religious reason to abstain during ovulation, I'll use the FemCap if need be, as that's what I've been doing even though I don't seem to be ovulating yet.
post #45 of 72

I use the Contragel Green and it can be used with condoms,  FemCap etc.  I can't use the N9 it burns badly!  I don't like chemicals anyways...

 

http://www.groovygreenorganics.com/natural-bath-and-body/body-care/contragel-green-natural-spermicide-alternative

 

this is safe and natural....

 

HTH
 

post #46 of 72

Hey Ladies-

I was wondering for those of you who AF has returned.... did you feel nausea around ovulation or post?  I have not in the past, but I have been feeling nauseous for the past few days and wondering if it has to do with ovulation or hormone changes.  I have also been feeling lots of sensations around my uterus.  I don't remember this after either of the girls.  And I didn't get my first PPAF till 14 and 15 months, so this would be rather early.  

post #47 of 72

Chloe'smama did you end up getting AF?  I had a few weeks of nausea and weird feelings and thought maybe it was coming but so far still waiting...

post #48 of 72
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Hey Ladies-

I was wondering for those of you who AF has returned.... did you feel nausea around ovulation or post?  I have not in the past, but I have been feeling nauseous for the past few days and wondering if it has to do with ovulation or hormone changes.  I have also been feeling lots of sensations around my uterus.  I don't remember this after either of the girls.  And I didn't get my first PPAF till 14 and 15 months, so this would be rather early.  


Just saw this!  No nausea here but definitely 'sensations' - I have always had pain with ovulation though so I know that's what it is. Its like a tight feeling deep inside... hard to explain. This is my second time ovulating so far (I got AF for the first time two weeks ago) and the pain/sensations have been lasting longer than they used to pre-pregnancy.  It now spans a couple of days instead of just one day.

post #49 of 72

OMG, I AM getting nausea around ovulation or at least ~premenstrually.  (Of course, I've had I think 7-8 periods already.)  Who knows what that's about?

post #50 of 72

I'm on a learning curve here about my body and hormones and breastfeeding. Since A was born we've only actually been able to DTD a handful of times and it was very painful. My greatest fear was that my Dr had made some kind of grave error when doing my stitches and that I had some irreversible nerve damage that was going to ruin my life forever. And piles of coconut oil didn't help. I finally consulted a new OBGYN who basically said my estrogen is probably so low that all this sensitivity is normal. She of course wanted to put me on a low dose of estrogen stat. I picked up my prescription and read the box and it said "do not use while breastfeeding" the estrogen passes into breast milk and it might cause a decrease of supply. Thanks OBGYN. So helpful. If our bodies don't produce estrogen to protect our babies from it why on earth would I mess with that or put my comfort above the future health of my son? Grrrr. Am hoping I can find some other remedies that might be helpful. There's very little written online as this is usually a post-menopausal thing and no one likes to talk about vaginal atrophy in nursing mothers for some reason ;) but it does happen. If anyone has anything to add to the usual suggestion of coconut oil, bring it on! 

post #51 of 72

typebug - did your doc mention topical estrogen creams? I have heard a lot of moms talk about using those .. another thing is calcium magnesium supplements - they are suppose to help regulate hormones - i recently read about this in a lot more detail but i can't remember a thing other than they can't hurt, and can help with issues like this.  (and also cramping, dips in milk supply related to cycles, over supply etc.)

post #52 of 72
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typebug - did your doc mention topical estrogen creams? I have heard a lot of moms talk about using those .. another thing is calcium magnesium supplements - they are suppose to help regulate hormones - i recently read about this in a lot more detail but i can't remember a thing other than they can't hurt, and can help with issues like this.  (and also cramping, dips in milk supply related to cycles, over supply etc.)

 

I've heard about the creams being used. I think the dose is similar to what I was prescribed which is a pill that's inserted. I'm hoping to find an alternate herbal/vitamin support for the lady bits till I wean. I'll look into calmag. Also I heard about vitamin e used topically? My research is just beginning really.

post #53 of 72
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I'm on a learning curve here about my body and hormones and breastfeeding. Since A was born we've only actually been able to DTD a handful of times and it was very painful. My greatest fear was that my Dr had made some kind of grave error when doing my stitches and that I had some irreversible nerve damage that was going to ruin my life forever.

Ok I have that issue as well - I haven't seen anyone about it yet though... wasn't sure what it was.  The pain feels like its right around the opening of the vagina so I too thought maybe something to do with stitches.  Hmmm

post #54 of 72

Not so much this time, but with my other two sex was just plain painful the whole time I was breastfeeding. The times we did it (which wasn't that often) I'd totally have had a glass of wine so was more open to it, and looser! Haha. We did other sexual stuff, though. Sex doesn't have to be everything, if you get creative. Hope it becomes less painful for you though, typebug.

 

So I just had the most INTENSE period of my life. I felt myself ovulate and it was the most painful it had ever been, then that was followed by the heaviest blood flow I've ever had. Bled for 12 days, then stopped for two, and now I'm spotting again. Ugh. I have to say, though, that it's nice to be ovulating again because I have a sex drive. 

 

I wish I had a better suggestion than coconut oil. That's my go-to! If I can just be slightly inappropriate here, I'd recommend before sex having your partner go down on you for a loooooong period of time. Always has helped me! :wink

post #55 of 72
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Not so much this time, but with my other two sex was just plain painful the whole time I was breastfeeding. The times we did it (which wasn't that often) I'd totally have had a glass of wine so was more open to it, and looser! Haha. We did other sexual stuff, though. Sex doesn't have to be everything, if you get creative. Hope it becomes less painful for you though, typebug.

 

So I just had the most INTENSE period of my life. I felt myself ovulate and it was the most painful it had ever been, then that was followed by the heaviest blood flow I've ever had. Bled for 12 days, then stopped for two, and now I'm spotting again. Ugh. I have to say, though, that it's nice to be ovulating again because I have a sex drive. 

 

I wish I had a better suggestion than coconut oil. That's my go-to! If I can just be slightly inappropriate here, I'd recommend before sex having your partner go down on you for a loooooong period of time. Always has helped me! :wink

 

All totally appropriate advice :) None of my close GFs have babies so I really do rely on marvelously inappropriate threads to figure out what might help. Lame about the crazy period! Did you find as you weaned sex got less painful gradually? I'm wondering if I night wean I might find a happy middle ground for my body. I know my little guy is eating a ton and dropping feedings on his own now. I could nudge that along gently. 

post #56 of 72
Sorry, I'm pretty tired... Where is the pain exactly? Are we talking like skin pain or deeper tissue? Raw?

I had pain after ds1 for an entire year. It's kind of hard to describe where it was... Almost where my g spot would be if we could actually find it wink1.gif
But it was like a bruise feeling and it hurt really bad, we had to go reeeeaaaaally slow (plus have lots of good foreplay first) and only use one position. My OB had the nerve to tell me that maybe it was psychological.
Anyway, it eventually went away (well before weaning happened) and hasn't happened with other babies, but I suspect it WAS bruising, or something similar, from not being allowed to squat while pushing for 2 hours.
So, I doubt that's very helpful to you, but there ya go.
And sorry :/
post #57 of 72

typebug, did you get your cycle back yet? Sex got less painful when that happened for me and then the pain completely went away when I weaned. But it might've also just been the time thing-- needing time for my body to heal from labor, not so much with #1 (I can a c-section and the pain was due to only vaginal dryness I think) but with #2 and #3 I had some birth injuries. 

post #58 of 72

typebug- I tried to look back a bit, but didn't find anything about whether you tore or had any stitches.  I did with DD1 and felt pretty sore in that area for quite a long time... I think maybe till dd2 was born and it got a bit loosened up again... maybe you were stitched a little too much?  I have been much less sore this time (even than with DD2), but I didn't really have any tears or anything, just a few little skid marks (as they say).  I also have to say that saliva works as a better lube than something like coconut oil (for us).  I think there is also the stress of timing everything, so there may not be as much time to get in the mood, or just being worried about little ones waking up.  

post #59 of 72

totally following this thread even though i've never had pain after birth in intimacy, and i'm already pregnant.

 

but second the stress of timing and not taking the time as being problematic post-partum.  taking time and really focusing not on sex itself but being intimate and flirty and sexual w/ each other is really important.  lots of playing!!!  

 

it's interesting though b/c i'm always itching to go and attacking my poor husband around 3 weeks after giving birth.  and only had dryness for a while after this birth and a LOT of PTSD from birth as well as exhaustion and straight up anxiety about another pregnancy (until i achieved it at which point i stopped worrying :laugh) and it was HARD for us.  but cycles returned, libido back to crazy, and bam, pregnant.  so all that estrogen is good for lubrication (as is foreplay) but bad for avoiding pregnancy....

post #60 of 72
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Originally Posted by odinsmama View Post

Sorry, I'm pretty tired... Where is the pain exactly? Are we talking like skin pain or deeper tissue? Raw?

I had pain after ds1 for an entire year. It's kind of hard to describe where it was... Almost where my g spot would be if we could actually find it wink1.gif
But it was like a bruise feeling and it hurt really bad, we had to go reeeeaaaaally slow (plus have lots of good foreplay first) and only use one position. My OB had the nerve to tell me that maybe it was psychological.
Anyway, it eventually went away (well before weaning happened) and hasn't happened with other babies, but I suspect it WAS bruising, or something similar, from not being allowed to squat while pushing for 2 hours.
So, I doubt that's very helpful to you, but there ya go.
And sorry :/

Thanks. I think it's two different sources of pain I'm dealing with 1) scar tissue and 2) burning raw pain from thinning of skin from the lack of estrogen. I feel like if I can deal with the latter I can start working through the pain of scar tissue. Nice to know other people have also gone through long periods like this and come out the other side.
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