A little vent...husband has no sympathy. - Page 2
Oh, he doesn't just use it, he's obsessed. He currently has over 7 THOUSAND pins. I'm actually amazed he manages to get as much done in a day as he does. Lol
My husband was so good to me the first time around but this time he's really not being as supportive as I expected -- but he honestly thinks he is. And this time I need more help because I'm more tired and have a toddler so much more to do. He injured his leg at soccer a few weeks ago and was asking me to rub it for him. Meanwhile, I was constantly telling him how drained and sick I felt and it was like it didn't even register. All he could think about was his own misery. :( Nope, they do not get it.
My SO is good most of the time. It is mostly because earlier on I was upset and he said, "calm down, you're being hormonal." Explosion ensued. He has been really good since then. He cooks for me as long as I tell him what I want (because of food aversions that seem to change every day), but the house is a mess and I've done laundry once since the new year.
When I complained to my sister she sent me this article for him to read. I nagged him for two days to read it. I think he did but he didn't take it to heart, or in his mind he's "already doing that." Psssht, yeah, okay. "If food smells bother you, have someone else do the cooking." Mmm hmmm. "If you are bothered by morning sickness, have your spouse get you some toast or crackers and eat them in bed and wait ten minutes before getting up." Hahahaha... even if he would, my toddler would have none of that. Oh, hark -- is that the sound of dishes being put away from the dishwasher?? Holy cow, it's my lucky day!
That sounds like my fiancé. I'm having the hardest time getting him to take care of the kitty litter - it sits around for weeks and he knows I'm not supposed to handle it!
I told him I need him to help out more though I'm appreciating what he already does. He told me to just tell him what I ant him to do. So today I told him we have loads of laundry to do, then told him exactly what I wanted him to do. He got stuck in the middle of load 1, even after hinting at it hours later the laundry is still sitting in the washer waiting to be out into the dryer.
It might be a bit funny, but it's also exhausting - I don't want to upset him and I feel super lazy but honestly I just can't take care of all these things right now.
anyone else's guy revert to a teenager while you're expecting?
my man suddenly needs to have a lot of band practice, he says he wants to play a show before the baby comes. he's on band practice twice a week, which involves alcohol and (i think) weed. then he has to drive home in the dark on a windy road and he always smells of alcohol when he comes home. i thought we could make an agreement where he doesn't stay out too long and makes sure he sobers up before driving, but i think he's throwing that out the window. last night he went when i had my worst day in terms of nausea so far. he said he wouldn't be staying long and we agreed he'd check his phone in case i feel worse and need him to come home. also we're meeting the first midwife this morning and we still need to clean the house.
he came home at 1.30am, drunk, ignored my calls and texts so when i actually did feel worse, i didn't get any response for HOURS. and now it's time to get up but my man needs his sleep and is probably hungover.. i'm embarrassed by the way the house looks, and i'm furious about his immature, selfish behavior.
i'm trying my best not to explode on him, he did apologize when i confronted him last night.. i'm still angry though, and i know in a couple days he will want to go back over again. WHY is it that i'm wanting to prepare for the baby by getting the house all nice and ready while he reverts to an earlier developmental stage? i think he's scared he might miss out on his youth, the man is 32 and i'm not having any of that talk - this is a planned pregnancy.
I hear ya Serena. My DH and I have been fighting a lot because of money and jobs and UGH. I am so mad at him right now. He took DD out ALL day and gets home at 8pm. Of course she slept in the car which is bad news for bedtime for me. Then-- we get into it again and he storms off to no doubt, a bar. DD keeps asking where he is! UGH!
Men have it good. We get to sit here, with a headache from crying, a constant tummy growling or gurgling, not able to drink, smoke, even freaking get into a hot tub and what do men get? Oh boo. They have to "deal" with hormones and go have drinks over it. Poor poor guys! I FEEL FOR THEM!
... NOT ...
Ok vent over...
OMIGOD MamaMash... this sounds like mine too. What's up with that? Yeah the lack of understanding is really getting to me, I feel very alone and *hate* that I'm thinking for even a second I don't want to be pregnant. But I am.