A little vent...husband has no sympathy. - Page 3
Once the baby came-- he became the best daddy and supportive more then I could have imagined. He helped me nurse, wrote down number of poopy diapers, rocked to sleep, made me dinner. It'll balance out. Hindsight is definitely 20/20!!!! Hang in there mama.
we met up with friends yesterday who are new parents. that's how i learned that my fiancé apparently has the thought "omg! what did we get ourselves into?" several times a day!!!! i was actually really shocked because i NEVER have that thought, and i was mad cause he's never brought this up before.
i asked him about it later that day again and he said he doesn't have that thought "all THAT often" and that it's never "in a bad way". not sure what to think. i guess i'll give him the benefit of the doubt, but it still pisses me off since this was a planned pregnancy -- and i hate it when people say or think they're ready for something, and then panic later when it's too late.
just hoping i'm making this into more than it actually is. still, UGH.
I have the same thought every now and then but it's not that I want to stop being pregnant and having a child, it's more that this is a BIG change and no matter how much I read ahead there's no real experiencing it before I experience it. It's a bit like the feeling I get at the top of the first rise on a rollercoaster, I wanted to be there, I chose to be there but it's still scary at that moment.
I would have argued that it sure looks different watching other people with their kids. When they are your own it really changes how you feel.
I think that's amazing your honest enough to say you never think that way vc!
after reading all your replies, i think what pissed me off about it was not THAT my fiancé feels that way, but that he didn't tell me until we were hiking with friends, and he told them and i was there to hear it. whereas i ask him all the time at home how he's feeling or if he's worried about anything, especially when he feels stressed, and don't understand why he didn't tell me this before.
EDIT. oh, and i should probably give the poor man a break. yesterday i was feeling really yucky, so he went grocery shopping by himself. he came home with alcohol-free champagne for us, and chocolate dip for dipping fruit! i thought it was so sweet. saving it for a night when i feel better. :P
My partner has evolved in this area. I think it took a while for him to really register he was going to be a dad, hearing the baby's heartbeat for the first time at 15 weeks helped. At first he kinda acted like I was exagerating the nausea, the difficult time sleeping, the cravings, etc. But then some friends of his from work who have kids came over with their wives and the two women only wanted to talk about pregnancy and chattered about how it takes men a while but they need to understand that they have to spoil their partners while they're pregnant. And the men quietly agreed. I think it helped my man understand a lot better because now he is totally spoiling me and taking care of me and indulging my tantrums. Right now we are going through a rough time because his mother is in the ICU. It is actually reversed now and I am spoiling him. It feels like the only thing to do at a moment like this that is totally outside of our control. But the switch of who's spoiling who has been effortless and natural.