I'm expecting my first babe in May and while I know I might have to wing much of it, I'd like to have an idea going in if I'm going to try getting baby on a sleep schedule or let the babe determine it.
The primary example I have is my older sis, who has 3 children and nursed her babies whenever they wanted, as much as they wanted. She waited too long to give any of them a bottle so she always had her babes with her at all times because they relied on her for her bobos. She definitely wasn't sleeping through the nights in the first year (i think at least 3-6 months) which I always assumed was normal.
My neighbor upstairs just had her second baby. The baby is only 2 weeks old and she already started this schedule that she did with her now 3 yr old. It got her 3 yr old sleeping through the night at 6 wks old. It requires a lot of discipline it sounds like and being home a lot so baby can be doing "this" at noon or "that" at 3:00. She (gently) wakes the baby up during daytime naps to nurse her and doesn't let her nurse every time she roots.
She claims that while its sort of to have to stick to such a schedule in the beginning, it's worth it to be able to sleep through the night. She's got some book she follows called Well Rested Baby I think.
Then I go back to my sister, who was/is always on the go, very active, always going on little daytrip outings, running errands, and she'd let her kids fall asleep in the car or nap in the stroller, and didn't have to be home at X hour to have the baby napping in the crib. I have asked her about it and she said yea she didnt get to always sleep through the night but she couldn't imagine having to always be home and that she likes being to be out.
I am looking for feedback from both sides, to hear pros and cons. I see myself being lazy and not motivated like my neighbor but on the other hand would cherish sleeping through the night. Sorry for the long post but thanks for your input!