I'll try to shorten this as best as possible.
2007 - Met B
2009 - Had DD with B & then married B
Jan 2011 - Huge, messy, bitter break up; he moves 300 miles away
Feb 2011 - I filed for divorce
Aug 2011 - divorce
Oct 2011 - He moves back to be around his daughter. We make amends and become amicable
Dec 2011 - We started "dating" again
In all of this time, we've had maybe a year cummulaltive that we were happy together. We've tried *everything* to make it work.
Finally came to the realization it's just not going to work. His MO is to get stressed out or angry and yell and punch objects (never has he laid a head on me though); my MO is to cry when stressed.
He said in anger about a month ago "How long do you stay with someone before you realize it's just a waste of time?" and I've realized he's right.
Cut to tonight when we both just realized. It's over. And instead of yelling and crying, we just had an amicable breakup
We just talked about who's paying what bills, who's going where, what we're doing in regards to our daughter. Talked every possible thing out. We're great, as friends, just being together is a heartache. I was sooooooo dreading splitting up because I figured it would be like last time. I'm just in shock that it went smoothly....